I've voiced many times that recruiting duty is a rough road to travel down. Not only am I proud of all of his accomplishments, I'm proud we survived it. I'm not exaggerating in the least when I say that this B billet claims an 80% divorce rate. And it's no wonder with the long hours and the high stress that rarely lets up. Proud to say we're not joining that statistic.
So here it is, I'm finally saying goodbye to the duty that at times I've completely loathed. Here's what I walk away with.
First, a new respect for recruiters. My husband and I now know first hand what this experience is all about. We know what sacrifices are made and the tolls it takes on a family. So when a recruiter calls your house asking to tell your 17 or 18 year old young adult of the opportunity that stand before him/her, please don't cuss or swear at them. Please don't do what has been done to my husband. Don't tell the recruiter that he and his family are going to hell for trying to send your baby there. Don't be rude. More than likely the recruiter calling your house is also a parent and completely understands your concerns. More than likely the recruiter calling your house would much rather be home with his or her children, but instead is sacrificing to step up to the call of a greater need. To find those Few and Proud to join his elite Corps. You don't have to like it, just have a little respect and some basic manners.
Second, we got to know and be apart of the great rewards involved. Not just on a personal level either. The kids he's recruited, that come back as Marines. To see them molded into one of the Few and Proud who get to claim that title. To see the gratitude in their eyes when they look a the man who's not just their recruiter, but now a brother in their new Family. Reward. To meet parents and wives who also share in the pride of being a member of the elite support team. Reward. And of course, on a more personal level, there are the awards of his achievements.
Several times he achieved Recruiter of the Month, and more than once did this for the whole District. He was also promoted meritoriously due to his achievements. Lastly he ended not just the year but the whole tour on an extremely positive note by earning and being awarded Recruiter of the Year. Needless to say, all of the sacrifice and hard work doesn't go in vain.
Third, as with every duty station, we walk away with new found friends. New additions to our well loved Marine Corps family. Some we will be seeing again soon, and some who we may never again run into, but will always keep in touch with.
For the wives who's husbands are not quite finished with their tour on recruiting duty and for those who are just starting or have recently just checked in, hang in there. The road is going to feel extremely long, and it's tough, and there will be many days you will truly hate it, but I promise there is a rainbow at the end. Your husband is performing one of the toughest B billets in the Corps, and you are there as his rock, his support. You too will survive this and be proud that you did. And while very few will truly understand what you are going through, never forget that you are not alone. Reach out when you need to. While you may be the strongest support for your husband, your fellow wives are your support team. Embrace them. Chances are, they need you too.
Now on to the next chapter. Excited to look forward to what lies before us.
I love my life as a Marine Corps Wife!! (good, bad, AND the ugly)
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