“It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are.” ~e.e. cummings
Jeez, you ask…how much more can I do?
When discussing the 5th Practice of Mid-Life Revivification, Reaching Beyond Your (self-imposed) Limits, some women become anxious and annoyed at the implied expectation that they are supposed to DO MORE!
These women say that their life is already full, they don’t have time to fit any more in between their job, caring for their home, husband, kids, parent’s, pets and whomever else they have taken under their wing through an obligatory commitment or volunteer activity. On the social side, they already enjoy time with church friends, their circle of girlfriends and boyfriends, gym buddies, book clubs and extended family.
At the end of the day, however, many admit, they may be able to check a lot of things off of their to-do list, but there is a connection missing as they go through their daily activities.
We are all very good at doing, but not very good at being.
Reaching Beyond Your (self-imposed) Limits is not a practice of Mid-Life Revivification created for you to do more.
Reaching Beyond Your (self-imposed) Limits is to identify the truths and moral compass of who you are so as to make every situation one to which you bring the very best of you!
It is discerning your true purpose and the gifts you bring to your job, in your home, to your friendships and relationships or anywhere within your sphere of influence.
Reaching Beyond Your (self-imposed) Limits has nothing to do with what you do, but rather with whom you are, always.
The practice of Reaching Beyond Your Limits takes you to the next level of interaction and understanding of yourself and of the people with whom you live and communicate on a regular basis.
How will you put this practice into action?
Discern. Meditate, reflect and dig deep into your heart to recognize what it is that you consistently bring to your daily activities, tasks and interactions. Use a journal to write and reveal which parts of each day you like or don’t like; which interactions bring you joy, and which bring you down. Do this for at least a week (doing it always is even better!) for everything you do from when you wake up until you lay your head back on your pillow at night. Patterns of behavior and habit will emerge. By reading back through your entries, you will be presented with the opportunity to let go of those things that do not matter and embrace those that sing to your soul.
Discover. Your gifts, your talents and your power. Are you a planner, a connector, empathizer, or strategizer? Are your strengths in your beliefs, need for harmony, consistency or intellectually? Don’t make assumptions. Listen to what others say about you; sometimes friends and acquaintances see things in you that you cannot see! Use tools such Tom Rath’s StrengthsFinder to help you objectively assess your talents and gifts. Some people are surprised at the results – but upon reflection, recognize they have allowed a strength of their heart to be buried deep within.
Enact. With every interaction or task, ask yourself if this is allowing you to use what you now recognize as your talents and gifts. See how they can be applied to any situation (even washing dishes or taking the dog for a walk). There will always be things we have to do, but it is our awareness of what we bring to the situation that allows us to reach a new level of conscientious living and reach beyond our (self-imposed) limits.
Once you recognize you have control because of the strength you bring to a situation, you elevate that interaction or task to a different level. You engage in life more fully.
Connecting with the part of your soul that acts not out of obligation, but out of a desire to use the gifts you have been given and to make a difference with every spoken word or action, gives all that you do a new meaning. You begin to see the good and power, not only in yourself, but in everyone around you.
5 Practices for Midlife Revivification
5. Reaching Beyond Your (self-imposed) Limits
What have you learned about yourself that helps you to Reach Beyond Your Limits? Please share in the comment section below.
To your best,
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