Random, Off-the-cuff, Change of Life Stuff

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Where do you begin when you're at the end of something? It would help a great deal to know exactly what it is you're at the end of before answering that! So where is it I'm at exactly?

Childrearing is more or less done for me. My youngest will be 22 years old before this year's over.  So will my 2nd & 3rd youngest.  They arrived as a set, minus one ~ quads! They all had heart defects; for one that was a fatal defect.  My oldest is now 31 and the two in the middle are 25 and 28, respectively (or will be by year's end).  There are no grandkids to fuss over yet.

There's no husband either and I'm clearly still in the mindset that there won't be for a very, very, very long time.  Divorce happened years ago when the "babies" were just 6 years old. It wasn't pretty!

My former life revolved around my kids and meeting their needs; hubby's needs too, when he was home.  Our life was full of doctor appointments, therapy appointments, hospital stays, battling schools to give my kids a fair and equal education, and eventually homeschooling.  Five graduated as homeschoolers.  Four have gone on to college.  While they each struggle with something it doesn't hold them back from finding a way to achieve their goals.  Many times they credit me with teaching them that attitude.  I'm proud of each and every one of them for all the achievements in their lives!

I did a little writing back in those days; a few pieces were even published!  Online back in the 90s I was on the frontlines of developing websites as independent individuals with something to say.  Many sad and tragic events pulled me out for several years.  Goals and ideals change over time and we all know the internet moves at ever-increasing speeds.  So I'm at a crossroads.  Having giving up on two separate career options earlier so could be the sort of wife & mother I wanted to be I'm now facing retirement age with nothing in front of me!

The savings, the IRA, and all the other accounts were lost to me in the divorce.  Some say I should have fought for those more.  No one knows what all my battles were so who are they to tell me what to have fought for.  My primary focus then was putting things in place to protect my kids.  I knew that no matter what happened I would somehow manage to be just fine.  I might not know how.  I might not know the who, what, where, when, or even why.  But somehow, someway, I always just do it!

I return to blogging to explore the options!  Number ONE!  Find a source of income that allows me full freedom to choose when & where to do any required income producing activities.  It must be something ethical, honest, good for anyone involved.  WOW!  That probably eliminated a whole lot of what's out there!

New life, here I come!

"A YEAR from NOW you WILL wish you had STARTED TODAY!"

 

 

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