A Plea from the Preschoolers

4 years ago
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Please let us be little

We're Big soon enough

Please give us some freedom

Before life gets tough

To drop a few things

Just to hear them go "thud"

To stroke the soft grass

To squish the cool mud

To wander and wonder

And learn to make choices

To practice small whispers

And try out big voices

To touch with small fingers

And feel with big hearts

Let's celebrate Little

Before the Big starts.

Those worksheets can wait

Please postpone the tests

Just help us keep growing

In ways we grow best

That may mean small messes

Forgive our big noise

We can't help but get swept

Away by our joys

And when we feel frightened

Please honor our fears

There's much to get used to

In these early years

Don't rush us to Big

It'll come fierce and fast

Please let us be Little

For Little won't last

    ~ Annie Reneau

I wrote this as our youngest child approaches his 5th birthday…as you can see, I'm feeling a bit nostalgic. :)

It's so easy—especially with first children, who suddenly seem so big when younger siblings come along—to nudge preschoolers into Big Kid World. And with standardized testing for kindergarteners becoming more prevalent, I worry that the wonder years are being cut shorter and shorter in the name of early academics. 

Our first child was an academically precocious preschooler, and I remember thinking that was somehow beneficial. So I get it. But now that I've had three children go through those ages and seen how learning really plays out over time with different children, this is where my perspective on early education has landed:

Preschoolers really only need to know two things: 1) They are truly loved and valued, and 2) The world is a wondrous, amazing place to explore. 

Given those two lenses and a child-friendly environment, everything is a learning experience in the early years. Preschoolers' discoveries are so exciting, their joys so pure, their wonder so raw and immediate—they learn deeply and naturally, just being who they are. There's no need to rush them through this stage of free exploration in the name of arbitrary academic standards. 

Kids in Finland don't start formal schooling until age 7, and they have some of the highest test scores in the world by high school. Early learning isn't about early academics. Early learning means giving preschoolers language for emotional expression, time and space to practice through play, a rich environment to explore, and the freedom to do so without pressure or coercion. 

If your oldest is a preschooler, relax. They're younger than you think. Really. 

Don't worry, Big is on its way. But let it take its time, because once it arrives, it's around to stay. 

Little is just stopping over for a spell—enjoy its company before it flies away for good. :)





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