You Can't Punch Someone's Face Because You Won't Discipline Your Child

3 years ago

I'm a mom, but I'm siding with Natalie Bree Hajek-Richardson on this unbelievable story. That's the woman who got punched in the face outside a Nordstrom Rack for asking the mother of a tantrum throwing child if she could calm her child.

I've gotten into a few scuffles myself in the frozen foods aisle of Shop Rite over my children's debatable behavior, but nobody deserves a punch in the face for making a request—nicely, Hajek-Richardson asserts—about anything, child included. The person receiving the request can disagree. The parent can tell the person to bugger off if it so pleases them. But no one has the right to inflict physical violence on another simply because they didn't like what that person had to say.

The piece I read on PopSugar about the assault said, and I quote, a Californian woman is “realizing just how protective moms can be .”

Punching someone in the face because she commented about your child in a non-threatening way that offended you is not protection. It's brutality. And, the fact that some parents sided with the mother is unnerving.


Upset little girl photo via Shutterstock.

Have we really gotten this far off-track as a society? We're now placing children and divine maternal authority above all else, even physical violence?

Let's look at the facts on the ground. Hajek-Richardson was in the checkout line of a Nordstrom's when the child who she thought fell between four and six years of age started pitching a fit. She asked the mother to calm what I imagine was a screaming, writhing child down "just a little bit.” The mother took offense and told Hajek-Richardson “not to tell her child what to do.”

Funny thing is Hajek-Richardson didn't. The mother reframed the argument as if Hajek-Richardson had dared to instruct her child, and this is the problem with parenting today. Everyone's child is too precious and important to be addressed by an adult other than the parents.

Back in the day, adults commonly reprimanded other people's children for misbehaving, and the parents actually appreciated it. Parents desired for their children to behave, display manners, and show respect, because it was a poor reflection on the parents if they didn't. Societal discipline existed because adults were the authority and children were not. As such parents were grateful to other adults for looking out for the common good and enforcing the rules of proper behavior.

But those values have eroded. We now find ourselves in a society run by disrespectful, loud-mouthed, entitled children whose parents shy away from discipline and punch those who suggest otherwise. And, people support this.

In the Nordstrom melee, of course, it's impossible to know exactly what transpired unless someone witnessed it first hand. And, there are times when a parent is helpless in the midst of a child's tantrum. Discipline doesn't work.

You know what you do then? You leave the store. You don't stand in line subjecting everyone in the entire store to your screaming, flailing, lunatic child. And, from what's been reported, the child seemed a bit old for a screaming match. Two- and three-year-old children throw temper tantrums because they are young and unreasonable and illogical, and that's how they express their frustrations. But a five-year-old in an all out meltdown sounds like she could use a little discipline.

If you watch the report Hajek-Richardson seems like a rather mild-mannered person. She doesn't strike me as the type looking for a fight. What's also interesting to note is that the mother waited to attack Hajek-Richardson. She didn't get into a brawl in the heat of the moment as the argument unfolded in the store. She waited outside the shopping plaza, and when Hajek-Richardson emerged she chased her down from across the parking lot.

The child was nowhere in sight. I presume the mother left the kid in the car to go attack Hajek-Richardson. Which she did, punching her twice in the face and leaving her bruised with three teeth she may lose. Then the mother took off. By the looks of it, it seems both mother and child need to calm down.

But all of that is really beside the point. The fact of the matter is whether you deem Hajek-Richardson's actions right or wrong, assaulting someone over a comment you dislike is indefensible.

Although PopSugar disagrees. They asked, “So, did Hajek-Richardson learn her lesson?”

And, what lesson is that? Keep your mouth shut when it comes to other people's kids or you might get pummeled?

Because apparently that’s justifiable now. 

 

This piece originally appeared in The Huffington Post. Stacey writes incisive cultural comentary also known as common sense on her humor blog, OneFunnyMotha.com and, of course, on Facebook

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