No More Parenting on the Sidelines: Things I Want My Kids to Know

4 years ago

I don't want to be a side line parent. Always cheering for my kids in the crowd, instead of actively engaging with them.

I want to follow my kids lead, instead of living vicariously through them. I want to celebrate their differences and appreciate the uniqueness of them.

I want to strike from my vocabulary, "There are only so many hours in the day." Instead I want to show them how to thoughtfully plan each day and accept the interruptions that sometimes sabotage our plans.

I don't want the only place I talk to my kids to be in a car. And I want dinner to be at a table.

I want to show my kids they are loved by setting boundaries and showing them why those boundaries are important.

I hope they have joy no matter their circumstances.

I don't want to be a parent that fills up every day with tasks that need accomplished. I want to teach my kids to respect space and the importance of living life in the margins.

If I live my life right, my kids will know that there is no perfect. All people make mistakes. And that is why there is grace. I want to demonstrate grace every day in my life.

I never want them to believe they can do everything. No person can do everything. Instead I want them to learn how to live the life they were meant to live. And then live that life to the fullest.

I don't want a college applicant at the end of high school. I want an adult who lives life to the fullest.

I want them to enjoy quiet, solitude and the joy of a passing cloud.



I don't want them to think the path they choose now is the path they have to stay on. No one has to live in the muck of the everyday. Anyone can reinvent who they are.

No one has to keep making the same mistakes. Everyone has the capacity for change.

I want to show my kids the importance of being fully present in life and not giving in to the myriad of choices that distract us.

I want to show them that if they are swimming against the tide, that is a good thing.

Failing is okay. Never trying is something to avoid.

Sometimes, I want them to be bored. And out of that boredom, create something really awesome.

I want my kids to know they are loved. Not because of what they do, or by how much they do, or how good they are at what they do. They are loved. And nothing can change that.

I want to show them how precious every minute of every day is. Each day should be lived like it matters. No day is a throwaway.


Jessica blogs on Long Days, Short Years about her parenting adventures.

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