No Boobs in the Cry Room

8 years ago
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A few weeks ago I posted something on my Facebook status regarding
breastfeeding support. Most of my friends know that I breastfeed my
daughter, and while I am not of the Breastfeed-or-Die clan I am pretty
well versed in the pros and cons of both breastfeeding and formula
feeding and have opinions on both.

Well, as you can imagine,
my status sparked a conversation with a younger girl with whom I used
to work. In so many words, she stated that she too supports
breastfeeding but she doesn't want to "look over and see boobs in the
middle of Sunday morning mass. That's what cry rooms are for," she

Well now. As you can imagine, this struck a chord
with me. As a breastfeeding mother and an equal rights activist for ALL
I was slightly offended. "I'm sorry if I'm mistaken here, but I was
under the impression that cry rooms were meant to be a place where you
take your crying baby, as not to disturb the rest of the congregation.
You'll have to excuse that assumption as I'm not exactly a member of
the church but that is what the name implies. Now, I can't speak for
other mothers, but I can read my baby's hunger cues and get her fed
well before she starts crying, so there's no real need for me to take
her to the cry room, is there?"

I got an immediate response.
"Sure there is. Don't you think that waving your bare breast around in
the House of the Lord, or in any public area for that matter, is

Hah! Inappropriate! Boy oh boy.

"Let me
tell you what I find to be inappropriate: First of all, the fact that a
mother who feeds her child formula from a bottle wouldn't have to leave
the room yet I am basically punished for feeding my child the best
possible food for her and blacklisted from any public area while doing
so. Yes, let's reward the mom who feeds her baby what scientists call
"artificial milk." That's right - it's artificial. It's a half-assed
chemical reproduction of the better choice.

"Second of all, I
find it completely inappropriate that society has marked breasts as
first being sexual devices and only second as what they were naturally
intended to be. If GOD has a problem with me using my breasts the way
he intended them to be used in his house then I shall choose not to
visit Him. Although I doubt that is the case.

"Last but not
least, I find it HIGHLY inappropriate that you claim to support
breastfeeding. As a breastfeeding mother, when people tell me something
like what you've just said I hear 'Oh, it's okay to breastfeed, so long
as it's convenient for me and doesn't offend me. Because that's who
it's about anyway, right? Me.'

"I am all for modesty. While I
disagree with the way society has forced our view on breasts as sexual
objects I understand that that is the world we live in and if I feed my
daughter in public I will do so as discreetly as possible. But I refuse
to shy away from giving my daughter what is best and I refuse to be
inconvenienced by people who go out of their way to be offended by it.
I'm sorry if this seems harsh but I am tired of being looked down upon
for making what I believe to be the healthiest, most responsible
choices for my child. I appreciate your opinion but that's not the kind
of 'support' I need."

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