Sadly our first instance of bullying came for Vincent at age 2 (YES, 2!!)
He was bullied by two older boys. It was on our own home turf in our back yard. The older boys were up in our playhouse and Vincent was standing in the yard. They were spraying him with a hose and laughing at him. I ran outside to witness this. It literally brings tears to my eyes to reenact the look on my son's sweet little face. He was so SAD, he did not deserve to be picked on. He was doing nothing wrong, yet these older boys were picking on him. He was an easy target. It was the most heartbreaking thing I have witnessed.
I was OUTRAGED and I still am when I look back on the account. "Boys will be boys", is what everyone says. I CALL COMPLETE HORSE CRAP ON THAT....Your kids will be how you teach them to be. They will treat others the way you teach them to treat others. I never thought we would see bullying at this age but it was just the start....
I had heard about this movie but never stopped to rent it. While on our way to London it was on the in flight demand screens. I decided to check it out. Here is the trailer.
All I can say is WOW! The movie was extremely moving. Bullying is such a problem today, I know it always has been a problem and they always blame it on the age old saying that "kids will be kids", but bullying is NOT OKAY.
Parents these days are not doing near enough, some are not doing anything. It is sick. SICK. SICK.I do not want to say bullying is the main reason we are homeschooling, but it is one of them. Kids are nasty and heartless these days. Parents are not doing their roles at home. Sadly I think once kids go to school that parents, stop parenting. It just makes me sick to my stomach.
We are their role models. We teach them right from wrong. We are the ones they mimmick, it is our job to make them into responsible human beings. But sadly, some parents do not care. I often wonder why these people even have children in the first place? If you are not willing to step up and be an actual parent...here is an idea... DON'T HAVE SEX. Okay, I am getting off topic. The topic here is bullying and the movie, Bully.
The movie starts off with a father, a father who lost his son to suicide. A suicide over him being bullied. They show home movies from when his son was a child. I instantly see my boys in him. The normal running around, laughing adorable child. So innocent and full of life. And this life was taken. Bullies pushed this poor soul to his breaking, taking his life.
Bullies are ruthless. They stop at nothing. They showed stories of other kids that had lost their battle with bullying. They also followed children who are bullied. One boy in paticular, Alex.
Oh Alex, he is a sweet soul. He was born premature, just like so many babies I know now that I am a mother. He is so funny and loveable, but kids today do not take the chance to get to know him. Just because he does not look or dress the way kids think he should they bully him. They taunt him and make fun of him. The language that was used towards him made me irate. The way these boys belittled this sweet boy and hurt him was so hard to watch. The movie makers had to turn the footage over to school officials and his parents because it was so INTENSE. Alex said he just figured that is how life was, he just got used to it.
There is a girl named Kelby in the movie who came out to say she was a lesbian in high school.
She said one morning in school the teacher was seperating the class and said "Boys....Girls.....Kelby" As if she were not a normal person!? A teacher?!?! Is this crap for real. I do not care what your religious beliefs are...YOU DO NOT TREAT SOMEONE THAT WAY.
I can not imagine anyone treating my children or your children that way. It is disgusting. And people TURN THEIR HEADS. The teachers and principals in this movie were a disgrace! The principal told Alex's parents these kids were "as good as gold" and would never act that way. They kept saying "Boys will be boys".
This has to stop. Each one of our children are precious. NO ONE deserves to lose their child because they are bullied. We have to step up as mothers to teach our children it is not okay. We need to teach them to stand up for themselves and for others. We need to talk to them and figure out what they are feeling. We need to be PARENTS.
Here's to stepping up and teaching our kids right from wrong as best we can. Here is to punishing our children if they are mean to others. Here is to doing our best to stop bullying as best we can. I know we can make a difference in this world.
Check out the movie if you can.
I know it will be one I show my kids when they are old enough to understand.
What are your thoughts on bullying? What will you do to protect your kids?
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