My decison to become a Stay At Home Mom (SAHM)

7 years ago
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I have a confession to make.  I get really irritated when Oprah says that being a stay at home mom is the toughest, most unappreciated job anyone could ever do.  So irritated in fact, that I stopped watching her show a few years ago because of that.

I mean seriously, Oprah!  knock that off.

How in the heck would she know?  She has never actually been a stay at home mom and so it seems really disingenuous when she says that kind of stuff.  Why does she feel the need to kiss SAHM butt?  Maybe because many of her viewers are stay at home moms? 

That might be like me standing over the plumber who is fixing my backed up toilet, “hey, I TRULY believe that plumbing is the hardest job on earth and you are so under appreciated and under paid.  I mean, all I have is this $20 and here you are workin your tail off.  I just want to give you a huge round of applause right now!  You are the MAN!  Hi-Ohhhh!”

But I digress.  Being a stay at home mom may not be the “hardest” or “most unappreciated” job on earth (most unappreciated is probably the salt mines diggers) but it is one of the most serious. 

When I look back on my own decision to be a stay at home mom, I remember all kinds of feelings that ranged from excitement to dread.  I had a great career and was ready to launch a new company with two very talented women (they have finally taken my name off the entry door).  I was 8 months pregnant with this new baby growing inside of me and I already loved him.

It really was just the feelings that I felt that compelled me to choose to stay at home with my children.  I can’t even describe it any other way.  Like a plane crash survivor that just knew they shouldn’t get on that flight, I just knew I needed to quit my jobs.  In this instance, I listened to the guide within me.

I acknowledge that I am fortunate enough to have that be my decision.  I do not that it for granted at all.  Many women in this country and around the world don’t have the choice and I feel it makes mine even more powerful.  I am very grateful for this opportunity I am afforded.

baby in the hospitalI remember how I felt when he was born.  I held my baby in my arms I stared to see all of the practical reasons why being a stay at home mom is the best decision for me.  It is exactly what my spirit needs in order to find its voice.  I had always been a passionate and outspoken women about serious issues and now I had a new person to advocate for.  Me.

I am a stay at home mom for Me.  I know that some say that children do better when a women works while others say that children do better when they are at home, but I do better when I am full-time mothering.   And guess what?  My four boys seem to like the fact that their mom takes care of her needs while taking care of them.  win-win.

Jennifer

www.cooperating4boys.com

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