The Much Needed Alone Time of a Single Mom

4 years ago

When you are a single mom to a young kid and also work full time, you don't have too much time for yourself, if any. I wake up in the morning just early enough to get ready and be on time at school (if I shave my legs we are late), I drop The Happy Boy at school and drive to work. After 8 hours in the office we go home, do homework, have dinner, prepare lunch and uniforms for the next day, and go to bed. Thats it. That is my day and I spend it being an employee or a mom. No time for me, not even to pee in peace. 

 

See?

So yesterday The Happy Boy went to stay with my parents so I can work today and tomorrow, and on Friday I am driving to spend the weekend with them. I love him with all my heart but, do you have any idea what I can do with two free afternoons and nights!? As soon as I drop him off I started thinking on my way home "I have to do laundry, clean the kitchen and pack for the weekend; clear the tub for the maintenance people and make sure we have enough groceries for next week; I want to go grab a drink with my sister tonight and tomorrow meet a friend for dinner..." In less than 15 minutes I had a full agenda! And what happened when I got home? I sat on the couch, ordered sushi and watched tv for five straight hours. This was a first.

Being a mom at 20, I had to stop going out with my friends because I had to breastfeed every 4 hours (which was horrible) and started depending on a crying baby to, pretty much, everything. I could not leave the house without putting The Happy Boy to bed and my mom will call me if he woke up so I had to go right back home (which I am thankful for, but that is a post for another day). Now that he is older and sleeps all night its easier, so whenever I get a free night I feel like I HAVE to go out no matter what. Stay home and watch tv? Come on! I am 26 and single, not 30 and married! Well, I guess I am getting old since last night I stayed home (because I still have one free night, of course) and you have no idea how much I enjoyed it. 

Since I don't get these opportunities often I always try to do every single thing in my wish list, but that list is too long to ever get done! Enjoying some alone time whether is cleaning, sleeping or drinking is something I have learned to do trying not to worry of how much free time I have left. So tonight, I am cleaning, packing and going out; and I don't give a sh*t of how little or how much time I have left. I will squeeze every second of it so I can survive until the next chance.   

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