This past weekend I spent my first two nights away from my baby, leaving her at home with her daddy to go get wild for a friend’s bachelorette party. And by wild, I mean I showered, put on a nice outfit and stayed up until 1am.
I shed a few tears as I put April to bed and then skipped out the door, jumped in the car and blasted some tunes for my three-hour trek to Montauk. The first hour into the trip I was pumped, I felt young again and I was ready to bust a move on the dance floor. The second hour was a harrowing experience driving through torrential downpour. And then, during that last hour, I got so tired. I was so very tired and I couldn’t wait to go to sleep and wake up at some really crazy hour after 7am. I finally had my first night away from my baby and all I wanted to do was…nothing.
Doing nothing! Imagine?! It felt almost shameful to do nothing, but I hadn’t done nothing in so long it would be a crime to do something. When it rained on the second day of my trip I had my chance and, given the choice of shopping or doing nothing, I naturally chose the latter. As I walked back to my room to start vegetating I got to thinking, what would I actually do if I had some “me” time?
So here it is, the list of “me” time things I’ll never have time to do anyway:
2. Lay in bed and play with my phone (which sounds close to sleeping, but I like to call it lazing).
3. Lay on the beach and enjoy an umbrella drink.
4. Try a five course tasting menu at a restaurant. Sure, it’ll be expensive but the sky’s the limit when you’re daydreaming.
5. Cook a meal. Or not. Just checking if you’re still paying attention.
6. Get a manicure, massage or just find some kind stranger to scratch my back.
8. Watch all five seasons of Friday Night Lights again for old time’s sake.
9. Read a book, or at least a magazine.
10. Head to a sample sale, wait in line for an hour and knock some ladies down for a chance to buy last season’s leftovers.
There is so much I would do if I had spare hours in the day to lavish on myself but, just like my youth and sense of spontaneity, “me” time went out the window when I decided to have a baby. With all the things I do on a daily basis, like daycare drop off and commuting to the city, it is very easy to forget that there is a “me” who might, in fact, need some time. Which is fine because let’s face it, any so-called “me” time I get these days is really spent talking about April or looking at her pictures. And if I’m being honest, I’d rather spend time with my baby than ever do nothing again.
How do you enjoy any precious “me” time? What are some things that you still make time for now that you are a mom?
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