A Manner of Speaking (when they talk, I listen, amazed)

8 years ago

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Saying thank you is more than good manners. It is good spirituality.
Alfred Painter

Today's song is really special. It's by Nickelback and it's really how I feel about my Duo. Lyrics: Songwriters: Kroeger, Chad; Lange, Mutt

Time, is going by, so much faster than I
And I'm starting to regret not spending all of here with you
Now I'm wondering why I've kept this bottled inside
So I'm starting to regret not selling all of it to you
So if I haven't yet, I've gotta let you know

You're never gonna be alone from this moment on
If you ever feel like letting go, I won't let you fall
You're never gonna be alone, I'll hold you 'til the hurt is gone

And now, as long as I can, I'm holding on with both hands
'Cause forever I believe
That there's nothing I could need but you
So if I haven't yet, I've gotta let you know

You're never gonna be alone from this moment on
If you ever feel like letting go, I won't let you fall
When all hope is gone, I know that you can carry on
We're gonna see the world out, I'll hold you 'til the hurt is gone

Oh, you've gotta live every single day
Like it's the only one, what if tomorrow never comes?
Don't let it slip away, could be our only one
You know it's only just begun, every single day
Maybe our only one, what if tomorrow never comes?
Tomorrow never comes

Time is going by so much faster than I
And I'm starting to regret not telling all of this to you

You're never gonna be alone from this moment on
If you ever feel like letting go, I won't let you fall
When all hope is gone, I know that you can carry on
We're gonna see the world out, I'll hold you 'til the hurt is gone

I'm gonna be there always
I won't be missing a word all day
I'm gonna be there always
I won't be missing a word all day

Little A has been able to put two words together for about 2 months now.

First it was "dit". Then, "dit down". That means, sit down.

Now, how did he learn that?

His brother just says one word.

Well, when we were in VA, I taught them to go up and down stairs. I kept telling them to sit down before they scooted down the stairs. It was an effective way to teach them, but it really impressed itself on A. He started saying Sit down every time he did a set of stairs.

They are obsessed with stairs.

A started walking at 16.5 months. N at 14 mos. Before that, they barely had language. Now that they have mastered walking their language is exploding. It's interesting that I can barely understand other kids' toddlers and what they say to their parents but I TOTALLY understand when my kids speak. It cracks me up. But those close to me and the boys also understand what they are saying too, like Chris. She clearly heard A yesterday say it to her. Today when I was taking him out of his carseat he said it again. So I know he knows the context in which it was meant to be said and it is incredible!

I never realized the impact of my words on them.

Especially A.

He is really verbal.

Two days ago, I was dressing him. They can now practically dress themselves and it is so nice that they help me. But after I changed his diaper he clearly said "thank you". Of course, I thought was hearing things. But then, I gave him a cup yesterday and he said "thank you" again. BFF Chris was watching them in the am...

And he told her "thank you".

I am so proud. Proud because I never "lose it" on them. I never yell or raise my voice, ever. I might call out to them, but never scream or lose it. I am pretty proud of how calm I can maintain even when chaos reigns supreme. I just think, if I get upset, then they will and that's not a good thing.

I am very proud that I am respectful and polite. I have earned their respect, you can tell. And so, they are learning to respect me and others who love them and treat them with respect.

So, I've heard from other moms of toddlers that their kids mirror their speech... and until now, didn't see it happening except the random "No" from N complete with finger pointing authoritatively from his crib (the No for throwing food, complete with wiggling my finger and saying "please don't throw food")

Now it's happening.

It is so fun. Today our drive into Boston was so adorable I could not stand it. A chorus of "mama" "ma-ma" in the backseat. Babble and words mixed together. Then when we got home, the moments I am in heaven. I went to get them from their car seats and both of them kissed me. And blew kisses to me before I leaned in to unharness them.

I can't believe how loving they are to me, to us, to each other. How respectful and gentle. Sometimes bashing but overall, they are so amazing. I REALLY was not super duper thrilled about toddlerhood... I was afraid because I'd heard such negatives about the terrible 2s and 3s and saw it with family members' kids.

My kids so far... are golden. Wowza. They share and are polite and say "thank you".

I know, this sounds like the proud mama bragging. It is. But I want to record this day and time, because days like these slip away so quickly. One milestone rolls into the next. I want to savor the memories so I document everything with video and photos and the written word so I can reflect back on these days and times... and the boys can too... and see how adored, loved, cherished they were and are and how every moment was and is celebrated.

I took 500 photos this week alone. And the week isn't done yet. I have a playdate on Saturday where the boys will be borrowing twin friends' outfits from last year and be pirates and participate in a parade in Salem. And then, seeing aunt Tracey, who just celebrated her birthday, on Sunday. They got her a card. I will have them sign it too!

A's hair is growing so long. He hasn't had it cut since before we left for Greece, which was the 3rd week in June. And their hair won't be cut until Nov... yikes. I can't imagine what it will look like in a month. Right now he looks like a little doll.

I've mostly finished the play area.

Today was a huge day for me.

I took out at the crack of dawn, seeing as I had some time to kill and the boys were eating breakfast before we left for Boston... and re-arranged the kitchen.

I put away the booster seats with the tray.

NOW... they are sitting at the table with their own plates and utensils and Tiny Diner placemats that suction. They will be sitting across from us, eating, for the first time, vs. sitting in front of us on a big mat where if the food was flung it went on the floor.

Now flung food (courtesy of N, always loving the flinging) will land on me and the table and the DH. It should be interesting today.

The garage has 1 highchair (the other given away) and the two booster seats with trays. That is the evolution of their feeding. That and the Boppy Newborn lounger which have been given away... I can't believe they are eating at the table as of today.

Life in VA in the spring will be different and easier. I won't have to haul as much stuff down on the visit, and they will probably be sitting in chairs vs. boosters by the time they are 2.

They sit up now and don't fall off chairs anymore. I am thrilled.

Tomorrow they start speech therapy but it's funny how much they are talking. Oh well, whatever helps them, being as they are bilingual they don't have a whole lot of words. Supposedly they should have 50 by now. I chucked all the milestone books at friends who were pregnant, being as I don't want to worry or compare. They will get there. When it is meant to be.

I am so glad they are respectful and caring towards others. It warms my heart!

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