I can't believe 2012 is coming to an end. It sounds cliche, but the time flew! When I look back at my last blog post for the end of 2011 I realize how anxious I was to bring on a new year. 2011 had its own challenges so I was happily looking forward to starting anew. That's the thing about blogging, it keeps me accountable to my own life, and my own words. In reviewing 2012, I can honestly say it was better than 2011, it many ways, but it was not as good as I hoped it would be.
There have still been the regular stresses of living with teens, which seem to be amplified when you factor in the multiple households that come with our blended family situation. The living arrangement that I hoped to return to hasn't materialized--Erica still lives most days with her mom and Olivia is full-time with us. I miss having the consistent routine of shared custody, (that's an oxymoron). The transitions we experience when Erica returns for all too brief periods, are difficult, especially for Diego, who misses his sister's regular presence. But, Olivia seems to have benefited greatly from living with us full-time. She finished the important junior year in high school with exceptional grades, and seems content. At least, as content as any 17 year-old anxious to leave the nest and escape her parents' clutches. The fact that Olivia is now a licensed driver helps to ease her restlessness and gives her some independence, at least temporarily until she sets off to college in the Fall. She's already been accepted to two of her top colleges and is waiting to hear from a third. 2013 should be a good year for her.
2012 marked a huge transition for Nico and Erica. They graduated from junior high and have started high school. Both are finding their way through the academic challenges of Freshman English and Algebra I and they are loving the social life and "big pond" experience they have gained moving onto high school. Having spent 9 years at the elementary school and junior high with essentially the same kids, they are both enjoying maintaining friendships with some of their former classmates who are attending the same high school, and they are thrilled to be making new friendships too. As for me, I love seeing them expand their universe with new friends, and new experiences. I know 2013 will be an enriching year for them too.
For Diego, 2013 will probably be more of the same, I hope. After all, he is only 8 years old, and I don't expect a new calendar to rock his world too much. He's (finally) in the second grade, and happy to be there. His Spanish is improved, and he is a strong reader. He consistently drops in a Spanish word or phrase when he talks to me or Juan, and he is proud of his expanding vocabulary. I am convinced that sending him to the Spanish immersion program in our public school district was a good idea. Sure there have been things he's missed out on not attending the Catholic school that his older siblings attended, but he is gaining a language. How can you beat that? We manage to help him fill in the gaps with his participation in our church childrens' choir, soccer and little league baseball. He's looking forward to moving up a division in soccer this year. So, for Diego 2013 should be just fine.
As for Juan, I think 2012 was a very satisfying year, professionally. He was rightfully recognized by my alma mater, Loyola Law School and the Criminal Courts Bar Association for all the hard work he did on a case involving a wrongfully convicted defendant. He was in his element this political season, since he loves politics. He followed all the pundits and devoured all kinds of blogs, and news shows during the elections. His two worlds collided this year, when our boss, the District Attorney for Los Angeles, did not seek another term, and we had to elect a new top prosecutor. Ultimately, we are very happy with our new DA, and look forward to the changes in our workplace that a new administration will bring. I think 2013 will be a very good year for Juan too.
When I started writing this post I wasn't sure how it would go. I realize I didn't have any time this year to write my regular Christmas newsletter, like I have done in our 2006 Family Newsletter, and in 2007, 2008, 2009, and in 2011, so I wanted to write a kind of retrospective on the year, but there is just too much to say. That's another perk to blogging, I can post another day. For now, for me, 2012 had some high points, and some very definite low points. It wasn't the year I hoped it would be, but it wasn't a year to frown upon either. I think 2012 was probably a transitional year--one which I hope will lead me to an even better year in 2013. Happy New Year. 2013. Bring it!
How was your 2012? Are you looking forward to a New Year?
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