I'd never publish a letter to my real son.
I wanted to let you know how proud of you I am, not for graduating high school, not for getting into a great college, but for the person you are. I'm proud of you.
You're a much better person than I am, always have been. You have amazing integrity and are an admirably loyal friend. From the time you were a baby and defended an immobile four month old from other babies taking her toys, you have continued to stand up for and support those who need it. I admire you.
You haven't always had the easiest route to get where you are, but you've accomplished a lot and have done it in your own time and in your own way. Over the years, you've used adversities to fuel your drive and make you stronger. You're stronger still than you may know and you'll be strong about any future setbacks, as well. I believe in you.
As you are, at times, a man of few words, I have, at times, been frustrated by not always knowing what you were thinking or how you were feeling when I wanted to know these things. As with everything else, you always let me know in your own time and in your own way. It took me a long time to understand this. I accept you for you.
You've always known when people were insincere, even as a baby. At the same time, you're able to clearly see and accept people for who they are. Faults apparent, you choose to focus instead on the good qualities of others. I respect you.
I'm not sure I can ever really let you know how wonderful you are and how much I love you, not with words or deeds, but I'll keep trying. I love you.
Your Hypothetical Mom
Bonnie L. Frank
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