It's Almost About That Time

7 years ago
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I am always surprised that I have made it this far with a ten and a seven year old, without having to address exactly where it is that babies come from.  We talk about babies all the time.  And we talk about Mom's being pregnant, babies coming out of belly's {as Lily did} as opposed to babies coming out of vagina's {as Belle did}, but the question, "how does the baby actually get in your belly?", has never come up.

In the past Drew and I have told them that Jesus brought them to us.  They have always just accepted this explanation without any further follow up questions.  So that was our answer and we were sticking to it.

Babies came to us from Jesus....and a stork.  Drew always throws in the stork. 

Lately it's been getting a little sketchy though because we have been talking about souls in heaven.  And are there souls in heaven that are then put into a Mommy's belly and then born as a baby?   Do all babies start off as souls?  Are some babies brand new souls and some old souls that have lived a life before? 

Do you see? 

The questions are getting sketchy and becoming more difficult to dodge with just the answer of, "well, Jesus brought you".  One of these days {and I feel that day is closing in on me, rapidly}, the big J is no longer going to cut it as the person who puts the baby in our belly's, and the girls are going to want to know the real deal.  And answering about the real deal is going to naturally lead into, inevitably an explanation of SEX.  

I am very liberal when it comes to the girls asking me questions and me giving honest answers, although with this particular topic, there is just something about them knowing about sex at such a young age, that really freaks me out.  My feeling is that they already grow up so fast and once they know about sex, then a chunk of their innocence falls away and I am just trying so desperately to avoid that.

So here's the latest conversation that occurred at bedtime a few nights ago:

 

Me to Lily:  "You are so lucky that you have such beautiful long auburn hair."

Lily replied:  "Thanks Mom."

Me:  "Well actually", I said laughing as I brushed her hair out of her face, "I guess you have me and Daddy to thank for this long beautiful hair."

Lily whispered in my ear and said, "no offense or anything Mom, but Daddy didn't really do anything to make me, he just kind of just stands there."

"What do you mean Daddy didn't do anything?"  I asked very confused.  "Where do you think you came from?  You are half of me and half of Daddy."

She answered, "yeah, but that's the part I don't really get.  How am I half of him?  He didn't really do anything."

Belle who has been sitting on her bed the whole time listening to the conversation says, "I think I know what happened with that.  Emma told me that Daddy must have peed in you and kissed you alot while you were laying down and that's how you got a baby.  Did he do that?  Did he pee in you?"

And if you have ever read anything here at heyMamas before, you know how quickly a question between the two girls quickly turns into a total barrage of questions being hurled my way, "did Daddy pee in you?  Did he Mom?  Mom, you can tell me, did he?  MOM, ANSWER THE QUESTION, DID DADDY PEE IN YOU?"

At this point I am TOTALLY flipping out at what is going on here and the questions that I am being asked, and what makes it even worse is that it wasn't even Belle's original question, it was a question planted in her head by her friend EMMA!! 

So I ask, "wait where did you get that from, tell me that again?"

So she tells me again that Emma told her that "men pee in women and that is how they get a baby in their belly."

As I am strategizing as to what to say next and realizing that this talk about where babies come from is going to happen sooner than I would have originally liked, she states very matter of fact, "well it's either they pee in them or throw up in their mouths, I don't totally remember..."

Oh boy...

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