Yesterday I wrote a post about why the internet sometimes SUCKS since Finley died (read here). Today, I felt it was only prudent to discuss the other side of the internet - the side which has been an amazing support to me in the aftermath.
I've written before about my birth group, the Sweet Pea Club. In the very initial days after Finley was born, they were a huge support. I was still in the hospital, and could only get online on my phone. When I was alone at night and couldn't sleep, it was to this group that I turned, and they were amazingly supportive.
The internet also gave me an outlet to tell family and close friends what had happened without having to have multiple difficult phone calls. As we were in another country, it helped to be able to take my time explaining things in a way that I thought was appropriate. And it also gave me the opportunity to decide if I wanted to reply to people or not. I was so overwhelmed with messages and calls from people that I couldn't really take it all in. But it was nice to know that people were thinking of us.
And I remember one message I received in particular. It was from a woman that I had only met once. Surprisingly it was a woman who I met when I went to a baby group in Italy, I thought I would start getting to know some of the other mums out there, as soon I'd have an excuse to join them. It was literally only a couple weeks later that Finley was born. She told me about Sands (Stillbirth and Neonatal Death Charity in the UK) and that she heard it had been a great comfort to women who'd lost babies.
Continue reading about how the internet was a huge support after Finley died and for a list of resources at http://dear-finley.blogspot.co.uk/2012/11/the-internet-part2.html
Finley Arthur Sissons 23/03/2012 - 26/03/2012
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