How to Raise a Curmudgeon

6 years ago

Big Brother is a sweet kid. Really.

He has a good heart (yes, kids with Asperger's can show empathy), is extremely smart (too much so for his own good), and has a keen sense of humor.

That said, I am under no illusion that my son is easy to deal with. To start with, he's not exactly chatty.  A man of few words, long winded conversations are not his forte.

No one would ever, ever describe him as a people pleaser.  He'll never be one to fall for the Just-Do-It-For-Me crap or any other guilt-laden requests.

And if he doesn't like you?  Well, let's just say you'll know very quickly were you stand.  I'm a bit embarrassed to admit his track record with therapists he finds useless or annoying. 

I personally find this WYSIWYG persona oddly endearing.  Too bad not everyone shares this opinion.

I get this, I really do.  Unless he sees the point, teaching him just about anything is an uphill battle.  Oh, and did I mention his penchant for complaining about any and every request made of him? He is so adept at this that we have taken to calling him our resident "curmudgeon."

He'll bitch and moan, moan and bitch -- sometimes with screaming, yelling and a few flying objects thrown in for good measure -- but in the end he usually gives in and does what he's asked.  Its quite amusing to watch, actually.

Dealing with Big Brother is not for the faint of heart.   It takes a certain kind of person to find him as charming as I do.  One to be able to sift through the complaints and insults and uncover the amazing kid underneath.

Luckily, his therapist is just that person.  Unflappable and understated, he continues to work with our boy.  He hasn't run screaming -- not yet anyway.

I'm happy to say that we're seeing progress -- however small -- with our new behavior plan.  We've even got the data to prove it.  I wouldn't believe it if I didn't see it with my own eyes.

So now I'm going sit back for a moment to revel in our ounce of progress.  After all, who knows what the next week will bring.  And who knows, there may be hope for our young curmudgeon after all.

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