Dear Mouthy Housewives,
Our son is almost 4 and still sleeps in bed with us; right there between my husband and me. It’s awful. No one's getting any good sleep, and sex is basically out of the question. How can we gently take back our bed?
From the Edge of the Bed
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Dear Edge of the Bed,
I've never really understood how the co-sleepers do it. Because every time one of my kids crawls into bed with me, I am forced to sleep with one of their feet jammed in my cheek while they lay perpendicular across the bed. It's just not fun for me. So I always end up taking my child back to their room as soon as I can summon the energy.
You are clearly ready to get your nearly 4-year-old into his own bed. But it's going to take some patience because it's very cozy right there between you and your husband. And you'll need some incentives. Maybe some superhero sheets for his bed? Or a new cool nightlight? (My son loves the Cloud b Twilight Constellation Night Light. It's a turtle night light that covers the ceiling with stars.)
Maybe make a chart, where he earns a star every time he spends most of the night in his own bed? If he gets enough stars, he can pick out a new toy. Basically, give him some reasons to want to stay in this own bed.
Some kids can be very resistant. In the beginning, you may need to walk him back to his own room many times a night. I also know couples who have resorted to putting a mattress on the floor next to their bed. Hey, if that gets you a little shut eye without a foot wedged in your cheek, that's success in my book!
Now as far as the sex, you know you don't have to do it in a bed, don't you? So until you've got that sweet son of yours sleeping in his own room, try out the couch. It might just mix things up a bit. Definitely a good thing!
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