Let’s be real here, first of all, when a teenager has a baby, typically, the grandparents are the ones doing most of the work. If the child has a good head on their shoulders and takes responsibility for the baby, they will finish school and get a job. They will need a job in order to pay for everything that the baby needs. Who is left watching the baby while the teenager is at school, work, and doing homework? Usually, the grandparents. Who typically ends up supporting the baby until the teenager gets a job and on their feet? The grandparents.
To be honest, I don’t want that responsibility. I’m raising my own children, I don’t want to raise my grandchildren. I’m not saying that I wouldn’t, if I had to, but once my children are grown, I want to enjoy some freedom, travel, and see new places and things. I wouldn’t be the type of mother to kick my child and grandchild out on the streets, but I wouldn’t be too happy about the whole situation.
We all remember what it is like to be a teenager. At that age, teenagers think they are grown, mature, and can take the world on. Mom and dad are old and were never teenagers so there is no way they could possibly understand, right? What they don’t know, won’t hurt them (sarcasm intended). I remember getting lectures and talks from my mom. Her and I were very close, but I wasn’t always an angel when I was out with my friends (how many of us were?).
What can we, as parents, say or do to get through to them that having a baby is not what they think it will be? My plan? Well, my plan is to be 100% brutally honest. I’m going to be upfront and tell them how difficult it is having a baby. Being up every few hours, only getting a few hours of sleep, dealing with screaming and crying, explosive poopy diapers that make you want to vomit, the cost of diapers, clothing, formula and everything else that comes along with it. Not to mention, that they won’t be able to go out with their friends whenever they want to. They will lose their own fun loving carefree teenage years if a baby comes into the picture.
Oh yeah, and the dads. Let’s not forget them. We all know how that goes. “I love you and I’m going to take care of you forever”.
Did I mention that I have twins? Which also means that twins run in our family. This also means that I have 1 girl and 2 boys. My boys are not going to get off easy just because they are boys. If they get a girl pregnant, they are not going to just run away from their responsibility. Not in my house. They will accept their responsibility and deal with the hand they have dealt themselves.
No matter what I say or do, I’m still going to be terrified that one day they will come home and tell me that I’m going to be grandma. A friend of mine has a couple of teenage girls and the stories they have told me of things that go on on the school bus, during school, and out of school scares the crap out of me. It’s a lot different now from when I was in school. Wow, that really made me sound old, but not old enough to be a grandmother yet.
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