How to Be Psychic in One (Big) Step

3 years ago

My daughter asked me: What is a psychic? I loved the question. First, it made me appreciate that even though she has a great vocabulary, the deeper meaning of words and ideas are a vast world waiting to be explored. And, who wouldn't want to be able to look into the future?

DSCN1298Over the last decade, I realize I've blocked my psychic gift. Can I tell you what will happen tomorrow? Maybe. My trick - I have to shut up and listen. Listen? That's it? That's where it all begins. We've all done those communication exercises to build listening skills. We know listening moves relationships to new levels in the home or on the job or even at the customer service desk to return faulty underwear. When we learn to listen, we break down walls and "see" a bit more than when we jump into conversations knowing it all. See, when we know it all, why would any messages or bits of wisdom come our way? There's no more room on the memory drive for new information. It's too busy running the old programs.

Notice the title did not say How to Be a Psychic in One Easy Step. Remember the game of telephone? Listening is perhaps the hardest human skill to develop (even harder than TOP 100 HARDEST BODY WEIGHT EXERCISES OF ALL TIME, which even includes #77 - THE CRUCIFIX PUSH UP; #29 - FLYING HUMAN FLAG OBLIQUE CRUNCHES; and #1 - BALANCING ON TWO FINGERS (ouch!)). Forbes listed the 10 Steps to Effective Listening as eye contact, not interrupting, empathy with the speaker, relax, keep an open mind, among a few. Just try not interrupting someone who speaks to you for more than a few minutes. Then, try not responding the instant they finish with a counter-example from your life. See how hard this is? Listening is the rarest, simplest, grandest of gifts to not only others, but also ourselves. When I shut up and listen, I watch my world open up.

By whole listening, hidden meanings are revealed; we hear the space between the lines. Wiki mentions listening as its third step in learning how to be a psychic. Some of the others are an extension of listening to others and our surroundings: meditation, being quiet and listening to that little voice inside - yep that one - that's the voice of guidance; wisdom; and perhaps brilliance. By not listening, I squish the voice of splendor within. Sad, yes, but when we find out how to change, we get a chance to transform.

Hands down there are people out there with gifts that "see things" I do not see. Look at Whoopie Goldberg in Ghost. She had the gift. The trouble with the gift, any gift is what one does with it. The physical act of just keeping my mouth buttoned while someone talks is at times so much more arduous than I imagined. Looking someone in the eye requires work. My special son requires so much listening as he is so hard to understand. What a blessing!

DSCN1290By the end of my long answer to my daughter's question, I am sure she tuned me out. (I tend to talk to much and get terribly excited about these discoveries.) I sat down and asked her about her day. She looked me in the eye and proceeded to talk.

Do I have a gift? I don't know. But I do know that when I listen, I mean really, really listen, there is a world behind the lens that shows itself to me and stays hidden when I babble about. When I listen, when I really hear someone else, I make better decisions, and I might be able to offer a bit of help to someone who needs it. And what is the point of being psychic if it isn't to improve the ourselves and our world a little bit better each day.

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