I have made some bad decisions based on how my daughter felt at the moment. For example: My daughter didn't want to leave her friends or her school, so we bought a house in town, and commuted to gymnastics. Now my daughter is being home schooled because she was burning the candle at both ends, getting up for school at 6 after going to bed at 12 from gymnastics. She started to get very sick and sleep deprived. NOW, after driving 140 miles a day for the last YEAR for gymnastics we are buying another house to be close to practice.
I told my daughter last year, we are only going to do what is best, not necessarily what puts a smile on your face. Children have no clue what they want, or how to even get what they want. Sure it's easy to just do what they are kicking and screaming , but the 52,000 miles on my year old truck and the $200 in gas a week, says something totally different!! Will I do what ever for my kids, hell yeah!!, but if they aren't learning anything, what good is it! If she isn't upset with me at least once a day, I haven't done my job lol. I will worry about her being happy when she is grown. Are you happy at work, every minute of the day, No! Why, because you have demands to meet.
There is no specific equation to parenting, and no body knows it all. Hell, it's basically trial and error lol.
But, the key to MY happiness is the rules I have set in place for my children lol. She knows if I don't hear the vacuum cleaner at least twice a week she will hear my mouth. Rules are the only thing that keeps children happy...why?...because nobodies yelling, nobodies upset...everything is running smooth!!
So focus on the right kind of happiness. Instant gratification leads to an unstable empty life
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