Hair's The Problem

4 years ago

I really thought we would be done with strange sleep issues by now. The boys are 4 and 2.5 years old and while we still deal with them coming to our bed each and every night, I didn’t think we’d still have a sleep problem like this.

So what’s the problem? Well, our 2.5 year old has become obsessed with running his fingers through my hair when he wants to go to sleep. He wants to have my head (my hair, especially) within arm’s reach at all times should he want to sweep his hand through the strands of hair. It’s not just at bedtime anymore, though. He now wants to have access to my hair any time he just wants to feel comforted. He’ll walk up to me and say “I wanna touch you hair, Mommy!” and he won’t be happy until I lean over and let him touch my hair. Then he smiles and walks away.

Yes, it is sweet that he is still comforted by his mama in this way and I suppose I should be glad he isn’t still nursing at this age (yes, I know some kids nurse well past 2.5). But it’s getting a little ridiculous. Last night I sat on the floor next to his toddler bed while he was drifting off to sleep (after about 45 minutes of “In your bed, Spencer!” “I don’t WANNA go in my bed!”), my neck bent at an unnatural angle to get my tresses closer to his chubby little grip. For ten minutes I sat there, him falling into a light sleep, his hand dropping onto his chest or bed, me trying to find a comfortable position, his hand waving to find my hair again to restart the cycle. *sigh*

Do the sleep issues ever end? If it’s not getting them to go to sleep, it’s getting them to continue sleeping, in their beds. Only a few hours after getting him to sleep with the help of my hair, my husband and I were asleep in our room and I woke up to find Spencer wedged in next to me, hand in my hair and sound asleep. I’m unsure when he joined us, but rather than tempt fate with a possible screaming fit at 2am, I let him stay there.

As I crouched next to his bed last night, I wondered what I could do to stop this little habit of his. Should I purchase a Barbie or some other doll with human-like hair (ew.) to be my hair surrogate when it’s time to sleep? Would the ribbon on Miles’s nearly-forgotten BayBay do or would that cause even more problems (Miles suddenly wanting BayBay again)?

Do any of you have a hair-obsessed 2 year old? Help me out, what are some ideas to help him kick the habit?

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