How does a great Parent resemble a great Leader? Parenting is an evolutionary, lifelong process. Learning to transition from one phase to another is an essential element. Here are a dozen ways to start building a strong, trusting parent/child relationship:
1. They both instill values.
Teaching your child to be considerate, respectful of the rights of others, truthful, and giving will demonstrate what is most important. Putting the right value on things puts things in the proper perspective. Say what you mean and mean what you say to exhibit confidence.
2. They both mentor.
A mentor is an experienced and trusted advisor. One of the greatest gifts in a parent/child relationship is trust.
3. They both create measurements.
Actions have consequences, both good and bad. Children will learn that early on when they are rewarded for following the rules. They will learn to self correct if things do not go so well.
4. They both develop plans for the future.
Teaching your children to plan will teach them to think about things, and make good choices.
5. They both lead by example.
Great parents don’t make promises, but children rely on their word building credibility.
6. They both make the hard decisions.
Sometimes disappointment comes, and children need to know it is not always a perfect world. The right messaging fosters confidence.
7. They both run things with heart.
Being kind and compassionate to your family and others teaches children to do the same.
8. They both show up for all the important events.
A child always remembers that you were there to support and cheer them on during those pivotal moments, feeling important and wanted.
9. They both give constructive reviews.
Build on strengths, communicate with great listening skills. Constructive critique goes a lot farther than bold criticism.
10. They are both honest.
With integrity and love, acknowledge all the great things your children do.
11. They both show loyalty.
Be there for your children during the tough times as well as the good times. Show your children regard.
12. Eat with your children.
In a USA Today article, research published in The Journal of Adolescent Health shows that the more frequent dinners with family, the better adolescents fare emotionally.
Here’s an example of a healthy comfort food menu, easily modified to suit your family’s needs. Try using whole foods that include foods that are free of additives, include good grains and natural sugars that come from fruits or plants. For a change of pace, get your whole family involved in shopping and preparing.
Sliced Cucumber and Chia Seed Salad w/lemon, olive oil and sea salt dressing
Unfried Crunchy Corn Flake Coated Chicken on the Bone
Mashed Yukon Gold Potatoes
Roasted carrots – purple; red; yellow
Fresh sliced watermelon with an agave/lemon dipping sauce
- Chicken on the bone (preferably all natural no hormones)
- Egg or buttermilk
- Sea Salt
- Cracked Pepper
- Fresh Herb of your choice
- Corn flakes
- Canola Oil
- Crumble/smash corn flake crumbs add salt, pepper, herbs.
- Place egg or buttermilk in a bowl and mix.
- Coat chicken with buttermilk or egg.
- Bread chicken parts with crumbled corn flakes and then liquid mixture and then corn flake mixture again.
- Place in refrigerator for at least an hour covered until breading sets.
- Grease 9x12 pan with canola oil (or any other good oil).
- Place chicken in greased pan, drizzle oil on top.
- Pre heat oven to 350.
- Bake in a covered pan for 15 to 20 mins, then 35-40 minutes, no cover.
- Check to make sure the chicken is thoroughly cooked, it is ready when lightly browned.
- All ovens heat differently, check time.
Marcia Richman, CPC
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