I think there are a lot of Mother's that should be celebrated on Father's day. Not all mothers, just those women who are raising kids alone. So many children are lacking a father figure. They are being raised by a women who has had to step up and be what her children need. So, Congrats! to all those women out there! Your kids are lucky you are so strong. You are a hero for being what that man couldn't or wouldn't be.
There is a big difference between a good Father, a average Father, a bad father, & a father that is so bad he is thought of only as "The Sperm Donor".
Most fathers are men who create a child in love, and they enjoy a life time of joy being a father.
Then on the other end of the spectrum there is a man that enjoyed the 9 minutes of joy during the conception and then moved on to living a selfish life where his needs and wants come first.
Here's a few ways you can tell which kind of man you are dealing with:
Good Father: Watched the birth, in awe of the woman bearing his child. He realized how very much he loves his new child and got tears in his eyes when he first saw them.
Average Father: Watched the birth, realized how very much he loves your mother and got tears in his eyes when he first saw the bill.
Poor Father: Watched the home video of the birth and got tears in his eyes when his mother-in-law sat down next to him on the sofa. And told her his kids better not look like her.
Terrible Father/Sperm Donor: While you are giving birth, He watched the football game, hit on the cheerleaders and showed up to the hospital with a date.
Good Father: Sold his Porsche to buy you a SUV with all the extras so you and the kids are comfortable.
Average Father: Sold his Honda to buy an older model van that will fit his growing family.
Poor Father: Sold your van or SUV to buy himself a motorcycle.
Terrible Father/Sperm Donor: Sold drugs to a few of the neighborhood kids.
Good Father: Has worked 2 or 3 jobs at a time, so you can stay home with the kids if that’s want you.
Average Father: Has worked 2 jobs so you can afford a gym membership and a trainer so you can work off that baby weight.
Poor Father: Has worked 1 job but messed around with his female boss to get a promotion.
Terrible Father/Sperm Donor: Has worked 1 job but messed around with his female boss to get a promotion. Cant hold down a job and wont look for one but makes you work overtime.
Good Father: Buys and reads lots of books about fatherhood.
Average Father: Says he read the books but reality he only read FATHERHOOD FOR DUMMIES.
Poor Father: Doesn’t believe it is his job to parent his kids, that’s what women are for.
Terrible Father/Sperm Donor: Can’t read.
Good Father: Hires the nice grandma down the street to help out with the kids at home, and insists on you getting time for yourself.
Average Father: Hires the nice grandma down the street to help you out with the kids at home.
Poor Father: Hires a pretty college student as a nanny, has an affair with her, while you are out getting that "time for yourself".
Terrible Father/Sperm Donor: He hires a secretary to keep track of which kids are his. or.....His name is Tiger, Arnold or Weiner.
Good Father: Thinks it is just as much his responsibility to do chores around the house as it is yours.
Average Father: Will help out with chores but only when asked.
Poor Father: Doesn’t believe it is his job do housework, that’s what women and kids are for.
Terrible Father/Sperm Donor: Lives across town in a trailer or his mother's basement with his pregnant girlfriend and she does all the chores there.
Good Father: He reads to, plays games with, laughs with and encourages his children all the time.
Average Father: He reads to, plays games with, and laughs with his kids but not often.
Poor Father: He reads the paper to himself. Plays poker every month with the grocery money.
Terrible Father/Sperm Donor: He will sometimes read a letter from home to his cell mates.
Just to name a few.
If you are lucky enought to have a good father around for your children, go give him a hug and thank him for taking this fatherhood thing seriously. If you are busting your butt to do the job of two parents, you deserve a big round of applause and a nap.
Happy Fathers Day!
At a time of reproductive freedom for women, fatherhood must be more than a matter of DNA. A man must choose to be a father in the same way that a woman chooses to be a mother. ~Mel Feit
Why are men reluctant to become fathers? They aren't through being children. ~Cindy Garner
Every dad, if he takes time out of his busy life to reflect upon his fatherhood, can learn ways to become an even better dad. ~Jack Baker
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