Looking back at my life, I see how important my girlfriends are and were in my life. From keeping me out of trouble; being the voice of reason; having my back; providing free therapy sessions; making me laugh through my tears; and just plain listening when it seems no one else could -- my girlfriends have all made lasting and important contributions to strengthening and supporting me in times of need.
Now that I'm raising two girls of my own, I often wonder how to best instill the importance of having, maintaining and selecting the girlfriends who will lift them up -- not tear them down. My two little ones have a rough road ahead of them. Grade school, playground drama, going through puberty, experiencing boy craziness, high school, college, puberty and puberty. You get my point.
It always amazes me when the hubs comes home from a night out with the guys and I ask how all his friends are doing and he just shrugs and says, I guess good. What? Did you not just spend four hours with them at the game? Did you not ask them questions about their lives? Catch up on what's going on with the other guys who weren't able to make it out that night? Nope. Nothing. Nada.
Me? Just give me 15 minutes and I'm able to uncover all the who, what, when, where and why's of my girlfriends' lives. Feeling connected to them and "knowing their business" makes me happy. Makes me feel like I'm not alone. Makes me feel normal -- especially the days that I don't have the chance to shower; am feeding my kid's fast food and wondering how I'm going to hold out for one more hour until the hubs comes home from work, just so I can go to bathroom by myself.
I hate to brag but I consider myself really lucky -- I have a lot of and a very diverse roster of girlfriends. I, like most women I know, still keep in touch with my girlfriends from high school. We've all moved and some have even moved back to our small hometown in Jersey. I love, and look forward to with great anticipation, the Christmas holidays when we can all catch up. See each other, gossip, grab a drink and have our kids play together. Those times are priceless.
My girlfriends from college...love them too. It's been a little tougher to keep in touch since I packed up and moved across the country....because they mostly all (well the majority of them) reside in Pennsylvania and it's hard enough to get enough time in to visit relatives in Jersey when we fly back east now -- but I've been known to road trip to see my college girls. I'd love to schedule a reunion and all get together for a three day holiday somewhere tropical -- ditch the husbands and kids -- and really just have fun time and catch up...kinda like our Spring Break in the Bahamas!
And I've also been blessed with finding some great mommy-friends. These special friendships helped me maintain my sanity after I took a sabbatical from my career and placed my professional aspirations on the back burner to be a full time stay at home mom. These girls lived the mommyhood dream with me...pulled me through the baby blues and welcomed me to toddlerdom.
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