I have a life post for you all tonight. It's something that has been on my mind for awhile now.
I keep seeing these t-shirts and pieces of wall art everywhere that say, “Follow Your Heart”. I always say to myself, “That is NOT sound advice.”
I was looking ahead in my daily calendar and in a couple of days the artwork on it says “Follow Your Heart”and I when I saw it, I was reminded that I have been meaning to blog on this very subject. Here's how I fixed the calendar page:
If someone tells you to “Follow Your Heart” please do me a favor and RUN! Run as fast as you can from that person and from that advice. I’m sure they mean well but that is just not good advice.
I’m sure I’m opening up a can of worms by even blogging about this but it’s true! I didn’t think it was true until I thought back on my life and all the things I did because I was “following my heart." That advice brought me a lot of heartache.
If I had received advice from someone with real life experience that wasn’t only going to tell me what I wanted to hear, I may have saved myself from lots of embarrassment, hurt, frustration, and craziness.
The Bible, God’s Love Letter to us, aka The Manual To Life, says,
“The heart is deceitful above all things and beyond cure. Who can understand it?”
(Jeremiah 17:9, NIV)
I mean, really, if my heart says, “Oh I love him, I love him, I love him!” but my mind reminds me that he never returns my calls, he ignores me when his friends are around, he laughs AT me when I’m hurting, or best of all he makes me feel small and stupid when he talks to me, then I shouldn’t be listening to my heart!
If my heart says, “You should go ahead and apply for that credit card because you DESERVE all those beautiful clothes” but my mind tells me, “Uh, you don’t make that much money in a month” then I shouldn’t be listening to my heart!
Sometimes our heart says, "Since you're sad, a triple meat bacon cheeseburger with extra-large fries, and a dipped ice cream cone will make you feel better" but our mind tells us "You know better than that, those things only help for a moment." Still, we eat all that stuff and make ourselves sick.
Most of us have heard that little voice that reminds us of the truth, rather than the fairytale we wish was happening around us but we almost always refuse to listen to it because we WANT to listen to our hearts.
The truth is, listening to our hearts gets us in trouble. It puts us in predicaments we don’t need or deserve to be in.
Feelings don't dictate reality. So, I say. . .
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