Everyday at least one person searches for something like "how to stop yelling" or "I yell at my kids too much" and then clicks on the blog post I have presented below.
This post has been up on my blog for almost a year. It is one of my most viewed blog posts, yet barely anyone comments on it.
Everyday there is a mom or dad out there who loses their cool and shouts at their kids. They are searching for answers, for help, looking for ways to make their lives more peaceful and to be nicer to their kids.
I wanted to share it again as there is obviously a need. People are looking for help and perhaps what you read below might help you.
Now, I still yell at my kids sometimes. But, its a hell of a lot less than it used to be. If you yell at your kids and you think it is too much then read on. And please check out Emily's post on Babble. It is amazing and helped me so much.
Thank you, Emily. Enjoy....
For awhile now I have been trying to get rid of my 'scary mommy voice' and find another way to deal with my kids when they are fighting, biting, not listening, etc. I have yet to find a successful way to bring peace to the house on a consistent basis, at least one that will withstand cranky PMS days and cooped up rainy days.
In her post, Emily writes about using visual cues to keep order. She used a jar marked Ice Cream that would either gain or lose its marbles based on whether her boys were fighting or not. If they didn't fight and the jar kept its marbles (pun intended) they would get ice cream.
My girls are 4 and 6, so I needed something simple along the same lines.
I came up with Happy Jar & Sad Jar (pictured above). We found 10 heart-shaped pieces of glass from my art supply box and put them in the Happy Jar.
The deal is, if someone (including Momma) does something that makes you sad, a heart comes out and goes in the Sad Jar. Something happy must then occur for the heart to find its way back to the Happy Jar. Genius, if I do say so myself.
The Prize: Friday Night Family Movie Night.
I love it as much as them and would do anything to keep it, including keeping myself from yelling. If we have all 10 glass hearts in the Happy Jar come Friday night, movie night is on.
To illustrate what makes us happy or sad we each made a list of 3 things for each category.
Here is mine:
and my youngest (4), Little Em's:
(Em & Sheepie)
Somehow, this whole process (and the cute lists) have made a dent in the crankiness levels around here. Things seem far more peaceful this afternoon, I sure hope it lasts.
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