Decisions About Someone Else’s Life
So here I am now, sitting at my computer, a complete flubbering mess. This morning, my whole family attended a religious ceremony at my my son’s school (my grade one-er). There we were, all six of us; me, hubby, two grandmothers, two grandfathers, beaming with pride. I was on video camera duty, hubby on regular camera duty. We were all right there, the cheering squad, front row.
And as they called his name to come up and receive his siddur, or Jewish Prayer Book, I just couldn’t hold it together. He mouthed to me during the show “I KNEW YOU WERE GOING TO CRY!” I can’t help it. I’m sensitive, I’m emotional, I’m a crier. The kids put on a show for over an hour. They were perfect. It was first class. And I wasn’t the only mess by the way. A few other moms also had their Kleenexes out.
So as I pondered today’s Blog post, something about decisions and choices resonated for me. Choices and decisions we make about someone ELSE’S life. Be it a sick parent, a handicapped sibling, a child. Be it a decision a doctor makes for his patient, or a lawyer makes for his client. We often have to make choices and decision for others. How do we make the right choice?
When my husband and I visited schools for our children, we wrestled with the thought. My husband loves sports. He wanted our children to be exposed to a variety of sports and academics, that sort of varsity brotherhood atmosphere. So we visited those schools. They were both academic and athletic and were clearly great schools. We loved the feeling of the old charming buildings, plus the indoor AND outdoor hockey arenas were pretty much a deal-maker for hubby… I think you know how crazy we are about hockey in this family. And then we visited the top Jewish day schools. And we both looked at each other, and agreed, we couldn’t deny our heritage. It was too important for us. But even after we made our decision, we lay in bed and looked at each other– did we make the right decision? Was it the right choice?
And it clicked today, that while we both had felt the heavy burden of making the right decision for another human being, we had in fact made the right choice . We had no regrets. With all the decisions that maybe we erred on in the past, this one was the right choice. And it felt great.
So as we light the first Chanukah candle on the menorah tonight, I would like to take this opportunity to wish all my fellow Jewish readers a very Happy Chanukah. And to my fellow non-Jewish readers, a very Merry Christmas. May 2010 bring you all peace, contentment and joy. And I wish us women all the wisdom to make the right choices for ourselves, and our loved ones. Always.
I decided to throw in an oldie of Adam Sandler on SNL about the Joys of Chanukah in honor of day 1. Enjoy… http://wejew.com/media/379/Chanukah_Song/
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