Co-Parenting After a Divorce: Gleaning Advice from Bloggers

7 years ago
LOS ANGELES, CA - JANUARY 23: (L-R) TV personality Jesse James and actress Sandra Bullock arrive at the 16th Annual Screen Actors Guild Awards held at the Shrine Auditorium on January 23, 2010 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by Frazer Harrison/Getty Images)

What do Sandra Bullock and Jesse James, John and Elizabeth Edwards, and Tiger Woods and Elin Nordegren have in common beyond the fact that the men are all cheaters (oops! Did I say that aloud?) They are all engaging in some form of co-parenting, making it work as parents even if they couldn't make it work as a couple.

Good Morning America covered this topic along with therapist Terry Real, giving concrete advice during the episode that couples can use in co-parenting, including considering the divorce from the child's perspective, keeping a routine, and having clear boundaries. After the show, Real continued to answer questions from the audience, touching on the importance of living in close proximity to one another whenever possible and "holding the line" with discipline, even if your ex-partner isn't enforcing consequences.

Bloggers are also engaging in co-parenting, and plenty of advice can be gleaned from reading their stories.

Blogging About Co-Parenting
  • The Modern Woman's Divorce Guide has advice on being civil following a messy divorce as well as a great guide to getting started with co-parenting.
  • Since My Divorce has a guest post from someone newly co-parenting a preschooler with divorce on the horizon. She explains the difficulty in co-parenting a child not old enough to understand divorce yet.
  • In the Pink explains how she went from, "a time that it hurt just sharing the same planet with him, breathing the same air – I was in so much pain that I couldn’t see past it" to parenting together with her ex-husband.
  • Momlogic gives tips to Sandra Bullock and Jesse James to get them started down the road of co-parenting.
  • Co-Parenting 101, a blog entirely dedicated to the topic of co-parenting, has a great guest interview with a writer who wants her children to have a good relationship with their stepmother.
  • Homespace also has a great post explaining how co-parenting may feel impossible, but can be done and gives tips on how to do it.
  • gathers advice from readers for a woman struggling to co-parent when her ex-husband's new wife keeps getting in the way.
  • has a helpful list of online sites that can keep co-parents on the same page with their children's schedule.

Are you parenting after a divorce? What advice can you offer others doing the same thing?

Melissa writes Stirrup Queens and Lost and Found. Her book is Navigating the Land of If.

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