This one’s a little close to my heart. Not because of the connection every woman made to her tragic rendition of “All By Myself” in her first few moments as Bridget Jones. But because the press has made it seem as if Renee’s baby-or-not pendulum is swinging as wildly as my own.
In 1999, she told PEOPLE,
“I’ve never been the kind of girl who sits there and dreamily says, Oh, when I get married… I think it sounds so pathetic when these girls are like, My dress will be like this, and my guy will get down on one knee. Get over it already!”
The sassy then-30-year-old lost a little of her edge two years later when she told HELLO! Magazine,
“Deep down, I’m a Texas girl looking for that big romance every girl dreams about. Biologically, I look forward to being a cornerstone of a family. I’ll be in my glory when I have a child on my knee.“
By 2005, she’d ended an impulsive four-month marriage to country singer Kenny Chesney with a source telling The Mail,
“Her biological clock is ticking, she is desperate to have children. Renee’s understanding was that Kenny wanted a family too. It was Kenny who got cold feet.”
But just three years later, Renee began making the Childfree site rounds with her comments to Harper’s Bazaar, saying,
“Motherhood has never been an ambition. I don’t think like that. I never have expectations like, When I’m 19, I’m going to do this, and by the time I’ve hit 25, I’m going to do that. I just take things as they come, each day at a time, and if things happen then all well and good. I just want to be independent and be able to take care of myself.”
Her Childfree slant seemed to strengthen in 2009, when she came under fire for talking about the horrors of babysitting her niece and nephew:
“My brother has two children now, so I’ve been playing Aunt Renee. They’re two and four. It’s chaos. Moms out there, kudos to you. The cool thing about being an aunt is like, I can leave. No offense to my big brother Drew, but that is slavery. I dare you to take a shower. You can’t do anything unless they let you. It’s a dictatorship. They’re little dictators in their crib.”
One would think this be enough to dispel rumors of Renee’s biological clock rearing its head, but the press did their thing again in 2010 when she split from Hangover star Bradley Cooper. An insider source for Showbizspy.com said,
“Renee Zellweger has issued a stunning ultimatum to her actor boyfriend Bradley Cooper: agree to have children, or it’s over. The Bridget Jones’s Diary actress, 40, is apparently desperate to become a mom while Bradley, 35, is keen to focus on his career. She has told Bradley in no uncertain terms that if he doesn’t agree to raise a child with her, she sees no future for them as a couple. Renee is even prepared to adopt if she isn’t able to get pregnant.”
But official reports on the cause of the split-up cite nothing to do with babies – only Bradley’s intense focus on his career.
So is this just the Mommy Mania media unable to accept that a 40-plus Childfree woman doesn’t regret her choices? Or has Renee truly been as indecisive as the headlines would make it seem? Maybe things will come into focus when she finally gets on set for the long-awaited third movie in the Bridget Jones series: Bridget Jones’s Baby. The producer said getting the script together has been a bit like herding cats, but it IS going to happen. One can only imagine the grilling she’ll get in the media after that one’s released. I, for one, will be very interested to see the drama her comments will no doubt incite. Maybe it will draw out an even more ridiculous comment than this one on Oh No They Didn’t, in response to her “motherhood is slavery” remark:
“She is beautiful, she is single and she is also a highly-successful professional. However, in spite of all these positive attributes, Renee Zellweger is not the perfect woman. Anyone who is planning to settle down with her and start a family needs to forego the charm of parenthood, because Renee is not at all comfortable with the idea of motherhood…Sigh! Renee is so uncool. A woman who compares motherhood to slavery does not even deserve to be a woman. Anyway, let’s pray that someday she realizes the truth that mothers are not slaves.”
Um, yes…will you all join me in praying that Renee comes to her senses and agrees that she will never be “the perfect woman” until she wants a baby?
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