As usual I am taking the wrong stance. Well, I don’t think it is wrong but when media has decided to interview all the parents that are outraged that a South Carolina mom was arrested for cheering at a high school graduation, it makes you feel like you are wrong if you are on the other side. The media has a way of doing such little things like that but this piece/vent isn’t about the silly mainstream media.
I have my own brain!
I decide my stance!
Here is the deal. I have had two children graduate from high school and one from college. We were blessed that at all three graduations parents/families/friends were fairly respectful of all the graduates.
There was minimal cheering. I was pleasantly surprised at the college graduation.
Let us focus on the high school graduation! The scenario goes like this: In our school district we have three high schools that graduate on the same day. In years past, high school graduations took place on the school property, but with the growth of large Graduation classes and parents wanting to invite "the world" to the graduation, public school districts have to RENT property space to accommodate all the bottoms. See the word rent? This forces the public school districts to use precious tax dollars in order to secure a facility large enough for parents to get their dream met.
Now, in our public school district they have succeeded with this task, but the deal is they rent the space for one day and for an allotted amount of time. This all helps with the public school budget! Therefore, they need to get THREE large HIGH SCHOOL graduation classes GRADUATED in ONE DAY. It is time consuming. There are roughly 900 to 1200 kids graduating each year, split by three schools. Mull those numbers over for a few seconds!
Let us talk about the cheering. It was explained to the parents to NOT CHEER. It slows the process, other families will not hear their child's name and they will not stop and wait because they can’t. A letter was sent explaining this. It was made clear that there was a time limit on the facility and each graduation had only so much time. They asked that the parents cheered and did their celebrating at private parties! Most importantly it was stressed that if they cheered, they would ruin another families day. It was a polite letter. Pleading and explaining logically to parents why they should not cheer. Remember, 300 plus kids at a graduation. Imagine pausing for each child? You want to go to that graduation? In addition, the public school district does not have the funds for such an adventure. Time is money. If you want great teachers, busing, sports and everything else, then you can’t ask for hours upon hours for graduation ceremonies too. Or pony up. Because it is really your tax dollars that pays for education. It isn’t really free, duh?
Once again, I must state, we were blessed with minimal cheering and blessed with NO outlandish cheering but it was sad because we still had a few incidents. Unfortunately, those cheering families managed to drown out a few names behind their child. THINK ABOUT THAT FOR A MOMENT!
I want YOU to really THINK about that for a moment! If YOU are a parent and YOUR CHILD was the NAME DROWNED OUT, how would you feel? You got the letter and everyone else was following the rules. Graduation was going great and then that ONE family drowns out YOUR KID. YOU MISSED YOUR KIDS NAME. I am wondering if YOU would feel all that bad about the parents getting kicked out or arrested? Oh, c’mon, you can’t be that sweet? Really? Well, I would deep down be going, “Yes, they got what they deserved!” Of course I wouldn’t say it out loud. Hell who am I kidding, yes I would! Funny, you all are looking at me and yet, that family just caused me to miss MY JOY! I am just not that sweet, sorry!
Listen,I know you many of you are in an uproar about the parents that got cuffed and arrested but those parents received letters about graduation protocol. Those parents didn’t give a damn about the law or other parents! Why? Are they really anymore PROUD of their child than other parents at graduation? NO! Every parent is thrilled that day. We all want to jump up and shout and hoot and holler, BUT with over 300 hundred kids, we would be there all day! Administrators would have to pause in between each kid and wait, AND we all know parents, right? For goodness, sakes, it would become a competition on who hooted and hollered the longest. Don’t roll your eyes at me, you know it would happen!
In the end, those parents got exactly what they deserved. THE CONSEQUENCE that was stated in the letter for their inappropriate action. Just because parents give empty threats, they shouldn’t assume THE WORLD DOES!
In society we set up guidelines with the intention to make things be fair and/or run smoothly. At a graduation, if you hoot and holler because you are so proud, that is great -- but you now just drowned out a couple of names so you just ruined two other families from participating in the same joy you were feeling. They didn’t even get to hear their child’s name, but by golly you got to cheer!
I find it funny that the media didn’t interview the parents of the children that names got drowned out by the cheering? I wonder how those parents felt and their friends and family who came to the graduation and had to sit there for a couple of hours only to be robbed of the ultimate joy? Hearing the child’s name!
I guess parents could always pony up and sit through all day graduations and wait for 5 minutes in between each name so every child gets the exact same time for cheering. Isn’t that the American way? Instead of teaching parents to follow rules, we will spend more and then bitch about no money. We will even the cheering time and turn a couple of hours into 10! This will cost money! Parents, Really, get a grip. Smile, be proud during graduation and then when you see your child after the ceremony, hug them, cheer, hoot and holler and take a gazillion photos!
Honestly, parents, grow up. Here is a thought: Be a parent, follow the rules! Oh, and be a human being, think of others!!
Alright, tell me how wrong I am!
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