Bullyproofing kids ... is it possible?

fightIt's impossible to be bullied if you are sure of yourself and you know who you are.

My kids were on the sensitive side so I was worried about them being victims once they hit the school years.  I pumped them full of confidence by disciplining them ... and having tons of fun with them.  In the really early years I'd sometimes wonder if I wasn't too much of a clown, but they were good kids, so I just relaxed and wallowed in them ... it was the best time of my life.

They felt so valued with all the laughter in the house and proud of themselves for being nice that their self-esteem was through the roof.

Kids who act out always have low self-esteem.  They just instinctively know they're not acting in an impressive manner and feel a sense of shame.  They may exhibit bravado, but they don't have high self-esteem.

Here is part of the bullying section in the "4 Week Child/Tween Program":    

Deflecting: The best defence against bullying is indifference. Ignoring can antagonize a bully just as much as fighting back. And don't be tempted to tell your children to fight back as the bully often has more experience with fighting and doesn't always back down. Besides, that can lead to it seeming like 2 kids fighting rather than there being one bully and one victim.

Indifference is best practised at home with role playing. Indifference is very hard to pull off when they're upset which is why practising at home with you over and over again will help them feign indifference with the real bully.

I was only bullied once and I think I was in grade 2. Some older kid made fun of my last name and I had a funnier way of saying it which threw them right off so they moved onto someone else to bully.

Discipline is EVERYTHING!!!  It is simply:  RULES, MANNERS & CHORES ... backed up by consequences.

If you need help with this, contact me for a FREE CONSULTATION.

Lisa Bunnage, Parenting Coach

 

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