Bringing up Baby: Tips for Raising "Good People"

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Boys with diapers on heads A Parent's Worst Fear

Aside from the all-consuming desire to keep my kids safe from any number of terrible tragedies that I can imagine in my mind's eye, my biggest fear as a parent is that my Darling Boys will grow up and do something horrible and violent. Think about the news stories you hear about on TV or read about in magazines involving wayward, outcast, or misfit teens that bring guns to school or the ill-adjusted, irrational men who shoot their former colleagues after losing a job. It's almost always males who commit such crimes. Why this is I don't know. Nonetheless, this image scares me.

The Learning Curve

Although our Darling Boys are nowhere near perfect, especially at the ages of 4 and 2, it's our goal to raise respectful, well-educated, considerate, intuitive, self-confident, passionate leaders. Have DH and I already screwed up in areas? Heck, yeah! We are certainly not perfect, ourselves. But the point is we are trying, and we have goals.

It's a learning process everyday for both the children and the parents. On those long, crazy, busy days, when we are tired and the Darlings are cranky it's easy to give in and give up, and sometimes we do, but then we start again the next day. The training and upbringing process of one's child lasts for many, many years. In fact, I'm still learning from my parents. So, maybe the process lasts until the parent departs from this earth.


How does a parent attempt to ensure that his or her child does not grow up to be a criminal, good-for-nothing, violent, or ill-adjusted adult? Here are some tips from the experts:

  1. Make time for your kids
  2. Be consistent
  3. Be a good example to your kids
  4. Lovingly, but firmly discipline your kids when they break a rule
  5. Give them boundaries
  6. Do activities as a family
  7. Teach your children values
  8. Give affection and encouragement to your kids
  9. Boost your child's self-esteem
  10. Give your child responsibilities

And what tips do other experts, the ones in the trenches, the parents, have to add? I took an impromptu poll last night on Twitter and Facebook, and here are the tips I got from parents:

  1. Obey your parents all the way, right away, and with a happy heart.
  2. Treat your child with respect to teach them to respect others.
  3. Teach your children to take responsibility for their own actions.
  4. The Golden Rule; Treat others as you would like them to treat you.
  5. Teach your children manners: please; thank you; you're welcome; I'm sorry; and excuse me.
  6. Instruct your children in spirituality. This will lead to a conscience, and higher meaning to their actions.
  7. Simply, teach right from wrong.


The Scoop

It's never easy being a parent whether your child is 2, 13, 27 or 52. It's overwhelming to think of all the ways I may have already screwed up my Darling Boys. But I keep trying to be a better parent each and every day. I try to teach them well, and be a good example (most of the time). Only time will tell how well DH and I turned out as parents. Tune in on Friday for a bit of Motherly Advice. Over and out…


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