I cannot take credit for this act of kindness, but what a brilliant thought.
My boyfriends father works for a motel doing maintenance work. Super handy guy by the way, what a great skill - to be able to figure things out and fix things! Anyway, in addition to being handy, he's also incredibly thoughtful. Doing maintenance around the motel, there are guests that are regulars or who stay for a few weeks at a time and he gets to know them. So a few weeks ago, I received an email that two of the guests from the motel would be joining us for Christmas. As it turns out, there is a woman staying there with her eleven year old boy. And they actually live there. For whatever reason, circumstances that I actually don't know, has put them into this situation where this one-room-motel-room is their home.
And they were absolutely delightful to have over. And they didn't want to leave. And I don't blame them.
Enjoying our family, drinking champagne, the table crowded with food, comfortable in our warm home and the tree overflowing with gifts. All of these things that I take for granted. every. single. year. And I often - almost always - forget about the people who don't have those luxuries.
So since then, this woman and her son have been on my mind a lot. I don't know how to support them or how to help. I wrapped up a gift card for them, and then wondered if that was a dumb idea because they don't have a car. So how will they get to the store, to spend the card? I'd like to help without being insulting. I'd like to give without crowding their space. And sometimes not knowing what to do, causes me to do nothing at all. So I am challenging myself to do something for them, and to not worry about how it might be the wrong thing, or what they needed most, or what is more practical, or most desired.
Ideas? Can't wait to give you the follow-up.
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