I take offense to being called pushy. So I already had my panties in
a knot before I got passed the by-line on Katrina Onstad’s article in
Chatelaine about birth plans.
Making a “birth plan” is about more
than being prepared. It is about being in control. Here’s why letting
go of all that is way harder - and that much better.
In her article, Katrina explains that she was keen to develop a birth plan when her midwife told her that “the best plan is no plan at all“.
While she was initially uncomfortable with the idea of things being
unknown and uncontrollable, she eventually embraced it and submitted to
the experience of giving birth and had exactly the birth she wanted,
without having planned for it. She also mentions the disappointment of
women that plan every minute detail of their birth and then end up with
an emergency c-section.
Midwives versus obstetricians
What Katrina perhaps didn’t take into account though is that there
is a substantial difference between the model of care of a midwife and
the model of care of an obstetrician. As Henci Goer explains in The Thinking Woman’s Guide to a Better Birth, “whether
you have a C-Section or any other procedure or medication in labour has
little to do with your or your baby’s condition. What happens to you
depends almost entirely on your caregiver’s practice style and
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