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TIPS TO HELP YOU ENCOURAGE YOUR TEEN DAUGHTER TO DRESS APPROPRIATELY
Ahead of Bindi Irwin's 16th Birthday, she is encouraging todays todays teenage girls to stop flashing so much skin.
“I’m a big advocate for young girls dressing their age,” she said.
“I mean, for me, I look around at a lot of young girls that are my age and they’re always trying to dress older. Whether it’s wearing revealing clothes or hardly wearing any clothes at all, I feel really bad for them.
“It kind of has the opposite effect in some ways ... it kind of does the opposite where it makes you look younger and like you’re trying too hard.”
My teen girls have never been girls to want to flaunt so much of themselves and for that I am extremely grateful. That means there has been one less hurdle to jump, in the day to day trials of raising a teenage girl.
But how do you encourage girls that flashing more skin, is not the best thing that they could be doing for their future prospects?
When I was a teenager there was no such thing as the internet or social media (I know I'm showing my age).
There was no such thing as a mobile phone, definitely not one with a built in camera. You actually had a roll of film that required developing by an actual human. This made you think twice about what sort of pictures you were going to take. No one wanted some camera store guy perusing your unsavoury photos and then handing them over with a lecherous grin when you went to pick them up (cue Robin Williams in One Hour Photo).
However with the invent of Facebook, Instagram and Twitter, are our teens being lulled into a false sense of security choosing to hide behind the computer or mobile phone in the sanctuary of their own home. They forget that by posting such photos on social media that they are in fact opening up themselves for scrutiny and putting themselves at serious risk for online predators.
Some teen girls in particular always seem to feel the need for validation and acceptance and post "selfie after selfie". I suppose everyone wants to be liked, but some seem to need it more than others. Often it is the girls that are less self assured and less confident than their peers. Are these girls just in effect choosing to hide behind their skimpy wardrobes and heavy makeup, too scared to show everyone who they really are and divert the attention elsewhere?
Bindi Irwin certainly seems to be one confident and self assured young lady. Although the loss of her father must have shaken her to her very core, her mother Terri has done an amazing job raising both her children on her own. The are fantastic role models for for teens and children alike.
So what can we do to encourage our girls that the need and desire for them to show excessive skin is completely unnecessary?
- Lead by example, dress appropriately yourself and more than likely your teen girl will follow
- Don't just forbid them to wear something, explain your reasoning behind it. Believe it or you can reason with teenager, let them know you have their best interests at heart
- Go on a shopping day and pick out some outfits together, what teen can resist spending their parents money!
- Encourage her to be her own person and let her know that just because others are dressing this way, does not mean that she has to also.
- Remember most parents are still in charge of the money they are giving their teens, or are still responsible for buying their clothes. Let them know what items you are prepared to let them purchase and what are unacceptable, after all you are the parent.
- Monitor the type of pictures they are posting online and remind them constantly about internet safety
- Show an interest in her life, give her the attention and validation at home so she does not feel the need to seek it elsewhere and in other ways.
Ultimately I think Bindi has the right idea.
There is more to our girls than the type of clothes they wear and their outward appearance, the trick is getting them to realise that too!!
What sort of clothing do you not allow your girls to wear?