The other day, I read a Facebook post that has resonated with me. It basically stated that we, as mothers, do not often notice we are beautiful. In fact, we do the opposite. Often, we say to ourselves and out loud to those around us, that we are not beautiful. We point out all of our physical deficits, or perceived deficits.
How many times has someone complimented you, for you to only refute what they've said?
Most of us will tell our children how beautiful they are, how special they are, and much more. But do they really learn it simply because we've told them? Of course, our negative self-talk is not helpful to ourselves. Interestingly enough, it is also detrimental to our children. Have you ever realized that your children are listening? Children learn from our actions. Showing them a lack of self-love can teach them a lack of self-love. If we say our positives out loud, we may not only start believing them, but our children will likely start believing it about themselves too.
When was the last time you told yourself you were beautiful, just as you are? When you start saying it out loud, you will undoubtedly feel odd. Then, a funny thing will start to happen: You will start believing it. Your child will see the difference too. A mommy that believes she is truly beautiful will result in a beautiful child.
Nancy M. Silva, MD, FAAP
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