Be The Mom That Doesn’t ‘Let Herself Go’

8 months ago
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How often have you heard the term ‘let yourself go’ being used to describe a man? Well, you probably have a bunch of times but not as often as you’ve heard it being used to describe women.

While it may seem harsh to comment on one's appearance like that, the statement usually has some truth to it. Women, after getting married and giving birth, tend to ‘let themselves go’; they no longer feel the need to fix themselves up in the morning, they don’t feel the urge to keep their bodies in check and don’t place importance on their overall appearance.

It’s understandable that women’s priorities change after becoming a mother but there’s no need to be a ‘sacrificial lamb’ after you give birth. An overwhelming number of women feel that becoming a mom means that they no longer need to focus on themselves and they use it to justify their negligence when it comes to looking after themselves.

Couples are inclined to getting lost in the roles of being parents and disregarding their partners as they do so. Physical attraction was an integral part of your relationship when you first chose to be together and so why ignore it when you’re going steady?

The same applies for single moms out there. Taking pride in your appearance reflects a higher self-esteem. When you come across as someone who’s self-assured, it reflects positively on your children as it provides them with a self-confident role model, someone they can trust and look up to.

Here are 4 simple ways to look after yourself.


  1. Watch your weight

The biggest complaint men have about their partners is that they are much heavier than when they first met and that the body is no longer attractive.

It is natural for you to have put on weight during pregnancy but understand that you don’t have to live with it.

There are steps you can take both before and after your pregnancy to ensure that your body doesn’t lose shape. Before you get pregnant you can begin training your core gently so it’ll be easier for your belly to flatten out after your pregnancy.

During your pregnancy itself you can partake in low-intensity exercises that will tighten your muscles and help you feel better physically and mentally.

After you give birth, it’ll take around 6 weeks for you to heal before you can get back into working out but be sure not to wait too long. The longer you wait, the harder it will be to lose that weight you put on.

For all other moms who’ve become complacent with their belly rolls, get your girlfriends together and find yourself workout regimes that are enjoyable and effective. Give yourself some goals and document your progress to keep you motivated.

Ensure that you are following a healthy diet and are shedding more calories than you are taking in. you don’t always have to go for drastic exercise regimes to keep you in shape, some smaller changes in your lifestyle will help you improve your health such as drinking water and sleeping the right amount.


  1. Pamper yourself with regular Spa days

Raising children is difficult and will definitely take a toll on you physically and mentally so take some time out to treat yourself with a day at the spa regularly.

Getting treatment at the spa will help you loosen up tense muscles and treat chronic pain.

The serotonin that will release in your body will help you feel relaxed and happier.

A massage will stimulate the lymphatic system to rid your body of toxins allowing better processing of nutrients and greater intake of oxygen by cells.

Lastly, exfoliating of the face and body polishes and relieves your skin, opens up your pores and promotes cell-regeneration, making you feel good on the inside and look great on the outside.

The spa is the perfect way to de-stress and revitalize your body and mind.


  1. Fix your wardrobe

Mommies are responsible for many fashion mistakes. Many get stuck in a rut of the same fashion style, mostly consisting of sweatpants and oversized shirts.

Who says you can’t look great being comfortable?

Feel free to experiment with trends but don’t invest too much in them as they are constantly changing and you may not even be able to pull them off correctly.

Find sizes and cuts that are flattering. Wearing clothes that are too tight or too big won’t do you any favors. Wearing clothes that you are drowning in will make you look sloppy while wearing clothes that you are popping out of can make you look trashy. You don’t want to look like either when you’re a mom.

Put in some effort in developing your own style. Make sure to invest in high-quality staples that can work with any outfit.

Don’t buy many of the same styles or items, you don’t want to become predictable and boring. Also, you are advised to avoid the sales rack, the slashed prices might tempt you but you’ll be left with lots of off pieces that look worn out.

Don’t forget your shoes! Tennis shoes may be super comfortable but wearing heels will bring out the femininity and grace in you.


  1. Put on your makeup

Of course, you don’t want to be one of those women who become reliant on their makeup but a little bit of makeup that enhances your features will only do you good. Learn to pull off a natural makeup look that hides blemishes and gives your skin a subtle glow.

Even a little bit of makeup will bring some color to your face and enliven your appearance. Some foundation, mascara, and lipstick is all you may need!

Motherhood will demand a lot from you but you shouldn’t forget that you are your own person. Remind yourself that you matter too. Letting yourself go is easy and lazy, make the difficult choice to not let yourself go.

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