Yesterday was the second day of school for my kids, and I was naturally very anxious and worried a few days before school started because you want your little ones to have a great time, a great teacher and to learn and grow in a positive way.
When I picked up my kids yesterday my son said he had something very important to tell me, but I had a lot of errands to run straight after school so I told him to wait till we got settled at home. We got home around 7 and I started making a late dinner and asI was cooking I remembered my son had to tell me something. I called him over and I asked him what was it that he had to say.
"I had a bit of a stomachache so I asked the teacher if I could use the bathroom. I went and I was in a stall ( had to do #2) when two kids came in the bathroom. One of them started banging on my stall door really hard trying to open it...I asked him to stop and he said shut up...then he went to the stall next to mine and looked at me from the top of the other stall... leaning over and laughed while I was on the toilet."
I asked him if he knew the kids but he said no maybe they were 4th or 5th graders. I asked him if he told anyone and he said yes he told the teacher and that was it. He was a little upset but he's only 8, and he has a very innocent mind, but it broke my heart into a million pieces to know that my son wasn't really safe at school. I know it could've been much worse, but I am in tears as I type this because I knew he was scared and worried at that moment and I wasn't around to help. I am furious because all day yesterday I had this terrible feeling and anxiety over me, I still do now, because this school year, so far, has started of horrible. I though I was just being dramatic and overthinking.
My husband and I went to talk to the principal this morning and he was very concerned and really eager to adress our concerns.He said behavior like that is not tolerated for a second and its immediate suspension. My son doesn't know who the kids were so its hard, but he assured us he is going to get to the bottom of it.I kept it short because I just wasn't ready to talk about it much. I was upset and I didn't want my son to see how upset I was.He is sucha loving and quiet and well-behaved little boy and it just breaks my heart that someone, even if it was another kid, could hurt and scare him like that. He's ok but now he's nervous about using the bathroom at school.
So now I'm here still feeling worried,helpless and very uncomfortable about my children being at school. I feel like kids nowadays get worse and worse every year.
Has anyone else been in a situation like this with their children?? what did you do? Am I over-reacting?
****update 9-11-12**** -things are a little better and the school staff was able to find the kid. Jonathan spoke to the guidance counselor and they were able to track down the boy. He felt really bad because he was just trying to "be cool" , heapologized to my son and I guess that was it from what I know. I happen to see the kid after school that same day after my son pointed him out to me. I saw the kid and he didn't look upset at all...he was fooling around playing with his friends.happy. so unfair i tohught...he should've gotten suspended....my son was terrified of going to the bathroom, still a little shook up, and that kid was having a blast. well, I guess I have no choice but to move on, and be strong for my son.
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