Every New Year brings the chance to start anew and achieve more of your goals in the upcoming year. For those who have been going through or planning to begin the adoption process, the new year is the perfect time to set resolutions that will allow you to grow your family quickly and responsibly. Here are four resolutions you should endeavor to achieve for the new year.
Secure Your Professional Adoption Team
Make a resolution to finalize your professional adoption team in the beginning of the year. This is the best way to start the adoption process on the right foot. Many people want to try to do it on their own, but the process is complicated and can be difficult to manage. Navigating the process without the help of the right professionals will usually lead to longer wait times and there could easily be red flags that you miss. It may seem counter-intuitive given that you have to pay for a professional adoption team, but professionals can guide you through the process with less money spent as well as provide easier and faster support.
Find a Stress Reduction Routine
Adoption is stressful, so make a resolution to start a routine to help reduce your stress. Much like the “I am going to go to the gym” resolution, this one can be hard to start and maintain throughout the year. However, investing time and action into starting routines that help you reduce your stress is going to make your adoption process much smoother. Start with a once-a week technique, such as journaling your feelings or taking a bubble bath. Then try to increase with more activities, like taking a walk or doing yoga.
Set an Adoption Budget
There is no denying that adoption is expensive but it is doable, especially when you make a resolution to create a budget. Set amounts that you need to save each month and figure out what you can cut out of your current spending habits. Also consider different fundraising ideas to help fund the adoption, such as a bake sale or community event. Many of my adoption clients have seen great success with fundraising events that pay for a chunk of their adoption fees. Plus, it is a great feeling to see all the love and support people provide to help you grow your family!
Commit to Support Your Spouse
If you are going through adoption with a spouse, make a resolution to always be there to support them throughout this process. It is very likely that you and your spouse will be on different pages and comfort levels throughout the process. Instead of lashing out or becoming angry for a lack of enthusiasm or too much stress output, resolve to show empathy and understanding. Make a commitment to openly and honestly discuss your feelings without judgment and always hear each other out on any concerns you may have.
Bio: Nicole Witt is the owner of The Adoption Consultancy (www.TheAdoptionConsultancy.com), an unbiased resource serving pre-adoptive families by providing them with the education, information and guidance they need to safely adopt a newborn, usually within three to 12 months.
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