Girlfriends for life!
Good friends can be hard to find. Let me rephrase that: good genuine stick-by-you-no-matter-what friends are hard to find. I don’t have a lot of friends but the few that I do have are loyal, loving, brutally honest and dependable. But I have noticed that although it may be easier to be a good friend to others, it’s much harder to be a good friend to yourself.
This seems to extend as well to not being able to ask our friends to be there for us, especially when we need their help. Why? Because of the erroneous assumptions we make e.g.
- Everyone is really busy with their own lives so why would they try to fit me in?
- Everyone I know is already complaining of financial challenges so how can I add mine to theirs?
- If I did ask, wouldn’t my friends think that I should have budgeted my finances better or made adequate arrangements for my kids so I wouldn’t need help?
- Honestly, wow can I dare make this ‘unreasonable’ request of my friend?
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