You may have noticed some changes in your partner lately. Is itsomething you should be worried about or just ignore? Following are themost common warning signs that may indicate your relationship is headedfor trouble if you don't address the issues now.
1. Your Partner Is Spending Less Time With You
Look for a dramatic decrease in together time. If your partner usedto call you every day, if you saw each other on certain days, had yourhappy little routines, and suddenly things have tapered off or haltedcompletely, this can point to possible trouble.
Don’t jump to conclusions and automatically think he/she is cheatingor doesn’t love you anymore, sometimes they may have to work late andat times they truly may be out with friends. After all, you probablywork late at times and visit friends too! If it becomes a patternthough and is combined with any of the following signs, you’lldefinitely want to talk with your partner about this and work onbridging the gap between the two of you.
2. Your Partner Starts Dressing Differently
If your partner used to be perfectly comfortable in sweats and oldT-shirts and suddenly starts dressing better before going out, if heseldom shaved and now has a baby-smooth face, if she never wore perfumeand now won’t walk out the door without spraying some on, be on alert.
These signs suggest that a boyfriend or girlfriend may be losinginterest in the relationship and as a result, they are consciously orsubconsciously trying to attract someone else.
Alternately, a partner may be having self-esteem issues and by dressing better it’s giving them the boost they need.
Again, talking to your partner about the changes is the best courseof action. Open communication is the key factor in making anyrelationship work.
3. There’s Less Intimacy In The Relationship
If he/she seems uninterested in being affectionate and/or if yoursex life takes a nosedive, this is another sign that things may berocky between you.
Remember, there needs to be multiple signs not just this one or thatone. At times your partner may be under a great deal of stress or isdepressed — these are two other common reasons for a decrease inintimacy.
However, when a person loses interest in their relationship, they usually distance themselves physically and emotionally.
4. Sparks Fly When You Talk
Maybe you’re just feeling insecure and you blow small things out ofproportion, maybe you’re just feeling needy right now. That happens.But if you approach your partner and discuss the fact that you feelthey aren’t acting like they used to or you miss how things used to bebetween you and he/she erupts like a volcano this is a bad sign!
If your partner truly loves you and cares about making therelationship work, why get upset if you mention some changes inpersonality or actions?
Fixing What May Be Broken
On their own, these problems may be fairly insignificant, butcombined they add up to the fact that there are problems in therelationship you can no longer ignore.
You need to take the initiative and try to work things out. Talkwith your partner, don’t yell or cry or accuse. Just tell him/her howyou’re feeling, that you miss the special times together, and that youwant to do whatever it takes to be close again. Avoid pointing fingersand pointing out faults, nobody is open to changing or trying ifthey’re automatically put on the defensive. Try to remain open, loving,kind and compassionate.
If you’re partner is willing to open up and work with you on makingchanges, great! If he/she has no desire to create a safe, stable, andloving relationship with you, then you may want to think aboutseparating and finding someone who is more suitable for you.
Love is everywhere, don’t think you have to settle for one person if you aren’t happy.