Why Married Sex Is Hot Sex: Yes, You Read That Right

8 years ago

iVillage recently released a survey of 2,000 married women that asked: How often do you have sex?

And please, girlfriend, don't pretend you're not dying to know.

Image courtesy iVillage

Guess what? Somewhere between one and 10 times a month, or -- my estimating, not theirs -- between once and twice a week, really. Let's break down some of the results, which -- by the way -- kudos to iVillage for doing this survey. I am so tired of America acting like married sex sucks (and not in a fun way).

You Know What You Like

According to the survey, married couples -- especially those who have kids -- have sex in the same place over and over. When I put it that way, it sounds boring. As a married woman with a child, I think it sounds better than "not having sex at all." Let's face it: If you've got a kid, you're going to have sex as far away from that kid's earshot as possible. If your bedroom is right next to hers, you might find yourself testing out the rest of the house, if you know what I'm sayin'. You're probably not going to have sex in a field three miles from your sleeping child. It's not boring unless you think it's boring. Embrace that couch, sisters.

You've Still Got It

iVillage tells us more than half of the women surveyed have been hot for their partners within the past week. I think that is cause for celebration. For years the media has positioned married women as frigid frumpsters, not the Hottie McHotness Goddesses we really are.

You're Not Afraid of Batteries

Enough said.

Married Sex Is Hot Sex

And ... the money quote. Nearly half of the women surveyed said their partner was the best sex they'd ever had. In their whole lives.

I'm going to go ahead and stop right there, because it's such an important point. Sex is such an intensely personal, intimate act, you can't go into it worried the other person is judging you on your skillz or your physical appearance. In order to lay back and enjoy the view, you have to get out of your head and your insecurities and have fun with it.

Go for the O.

Shake off the day. Enjoy the feel of skin on skin with your love in life. You wanted to be with this person forever, and forever is now.

So what are you waiting for, friends? Get you some lovin' tonight.

This is the fifth post in our How to Get a Happier Marriage Series. If you've missed one, check out the archive.

Rita Arens authors Surrender Dorothy and is the editor of Sleep is for the Weak. She is BlogHer's assignment and syndication editor.

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