"Why I Am Glad to be Divorced Three Times and What You Can Learn From Me."
Yes, I said it. I am a thrice-divorced woman of 52 years. Should I just call it a day right now? After all, who wants to date, much less marry, someone who has three “failed” marriages, AND is over 50? Let’s not forget the fact that she has three children and she is unemployed.
What’s a woman to do in this precarious situation? Watch, wait and know: Life will be good again! This was my exact situation November, 2010.
Its been 2 years since I met my love, Marc. He's a gift and I finally found "it" with him. A widower with no children who was in love with his wife of 15 yrs when she died, he is a remarkable man. Is it because he is European? All I know is my last 3 husbands were American and this IS VERY DIFFERENT. He calls me "my dear" with this delicious accent and I just melt. I was smitten from the start and we have a great "meeting" story which I will share on another post.
Here are some of the many things I have learned (the hard way, which, perhaps, is the only way we do learn):
A. Accept “defeat” and “failure” as simply words with definitions, nothing more. I believe if something is learned, it is not a failure but an experience. Everyone benefits from experience. It’s the number one thing employers look for in a job candidate. Given that, I am exceptionally experienced in the area of relationships. Defeat means there is a winner and a loser. No one won or lost anything. Two people made an agreement out of love, grew apart, and broke the agreement. There are no winners.
B. Keep an open mind.
C. Don’t look for love in all the wrong places.
D. Improve yourself.
E. Stay focused on your next career goal.
F. Remember, everything works out in the end, and if it does not work out, it is not yet the end.
G. Eat well and sleep often.
H. Follow your passions as hobbies, regardless if you have a partner.
I. Know the importance of making a real difference in the world.
I have found love again, and I feel, in a word, GRATEFUL. I didn’t look for it, it found me. It was even love at first sight, which has never happened to me before. Into this relationship, I bring all of me, all of my experiences, all of my dreams, all my imperfections, and my whole heart. He makes me laugh and feel loved every day. I love him because I trust him. And I know from experience how good I really have it.