What is Love? According to Author Pouline Middleton, It's Having Three Men Instead of One

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 Danish relationship expert, love coach and author Pouline Middleton is bringing the ultimate dating experiment to America, when her best selling book of One Woman Three Men, is released for the first time in America this spring.

Middleton, who didn’t just spin an imaginary yarn about what it might like to date/exist in a One Woman Three Men relationship model, actually tried it out for herself, for over a year. The result were a series of personal  blogs, where she came face to face with all her feels on body image, sexual desires and even gender bending,  as she looked for three men to date, one to be a sex partner, another strictly for conversation and one to serve as a handyman and help with practical matters around the house.

 

 

The book, being released this April to coincide with the authors ten day tour of the US, compiles those blog posts into the fictional narrative of Elizabeth, a divorced single mom, who instead of giving up on love, decides to ditch traditional dating  as a means to  getting exactly what she wants from the men she allows in her life. Her quest takes her on some serious Fifty Shades style sexual adventures, while prompting her to find new ways to pursue and interpret what partnership means. Doing so means eradicating romantic castles around men who intrigue her, so she can instantly determine, which of her three categories the men she meets can best fill. 

In One Woman Three Men, Middleton does a fine  examination of why we date the way we do, posing a greater question of who’s needs get to be met and how, in order for a relationship to succeed? Dating in America used to be a sure fire means to finding a lifelong mate and marriage, but times have changed tremendously. Multiply that by high numbers of divorcees or even those coming out of a long term relationship, who’s perspectives on dating and desire may have morphed away from traditional norms which, as shown through lead character Elizabeth, is sometimes quite necessary. 

All relationships are tough, and when elevated to the level of romance, maintaining them can be even tougher.  Still, when you’ve been hurt, must you move forward in love using the same techniques and approaches to love that failed you in the past? If you’re ready to find a new way in love, life and potentially a relationship that fulfills instead of drains you, One Woman Three Men is a great place to begin.

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