What Happened to Dinner and a Movie?

3 years ago

Seriously, what happened to dinner and a movie? That was the question I asked my best friend the other day.

It seems like every guy I meet lately is only interested in one thing — sex. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not naive. I know that 99.9 percent of the time, sex is the only thing on the minds of men, but, come on, give a girl a little bit of credit.

Two weeks ago, I participated in a speed dating event as a favor to someone. It was surprisingly fun, and I got matched with three people. One of them, I started talking to casually. Then, the conversation when something like this:


Speed Dating Guy: I’m so stressed out from work.

Me: Well, I’m a good listener if you ever need to vent. :)

Speed Dating Guy: I think there’s something other than talking that I’d rather do to relieve the stress lol

Me: Ha! lol. I’m good at that, too ;-)

Speed Dating Guy: Ooo is that right? Well, I have the house to myself tonight if you want to come help me out ;-)

Now, yes, I know I maybe shouldn’t have played into it, but I wanted to test the waters. Was he going to say, “I’m just joking” or let it just go?

Nope. He continued it. Even sent me a photo showing off his body. And, this morning, while talking about Opening Day, he asked me “how wet are you?” In the words of someone I would have no problem jumping into bed with, (Seth Myers), “really?!”

When did dating, or getting to know someone, automatically turn into sexting?

My first real experience with sexting was with Beer Guy. He was totally into it, and I wasn’t. But, as I got to know him better,  and felt more comfortable with him, I opened up to the idea of it.

I have to admit that sexting can be hot, and fun. If you are in a long-distance relationship, or talking with someone who doesn’t live close, it definitely adds to the romance and excitement. I did it a lot with Bartender Boy, but that was after 3 or 4 months of talking and getting to know each other.

But, I’m not sure how I feel about it when you first meet someone. Speed Dating Guy and I were only on the speed date, and he didn’t even ask me out for coffee, which means he really isn’t worth my time, because he doesn’t have the respect for me that I deserve. And, while part of me is proud of myself for realizing that and not letting myself fall into that trap, the other part of me is sad and disappointed, because many of the men I meet are just like Speed Dating Guy.

So, is it them, or is it me? Is there something that I put out there that makes them think I’m easy, or in other words, not girlfriend material?

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