What Biblical Submission Really Is

4 years ago

I'm sure some of y'all have heard or seen the interview that Candace Cameron Bure gave. The one I'm talking about is on Biblical submission. Some who interviewed her or talked about it later without talking to her got the information wrong and twisted. Jane Velez-Mitchell totally got it wrong and not only that, she threw a fit on national TV. Are you kidding me? Screaming and yelling to be heard. Oh, yes, that will make people listen to your side. Nope, sorry, that in my opinion made her look like a child throwing a fit when they don't get their way, or when someone tells them no.


She didn't even let those who were there to talk about biblical submission talk. Sad.
Submission in the Biblical sense is nothing like this woman and some others think. It isn't about the woman being weak. Let's look at the definition the dictionary gives.
sub·mis·sion (n)

1. The act of submitting to the power of another: "Oppression that cannot be overcome does not give rise to revolt but to submission" (Simone Weil).
b. The state of having submitted. See Synonyms at surrender.
2. The state of being submissive or compliant; meekness.
3. a. The act of submitting something for consideration.
b. Something so submitted:

By looking at this definition, it nowhere says that someone who submits is weak. Looking at it from a Biblical way it is even more clear that the women aren't weak.

Ephesians 5:22-33 ESV
Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands. Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word

Yes, we're to submit to our husbands, but it doesn't and let me say it again, it doesn't mean that we don't have a say. In our home it works this way. Hubby and I Twill discuss an issue. I will tell him how I feel about whatever the issue we are discussing is. Anyone who knows me knows that I'm very opinionated. In the end my husband has the final say on the issue. Also, if we're praying about something and God nudges me about it, then I'll tell him. He still in the end makes the decision.

Does it mean that the man is always right? Nope. Because let's face it we're all human and make mistakes. I don't rub it in his face or anything like that. I stand by him and his decision and pray. I'm not going to yell or scream at him, because that would be disrespectful. Men need to feel respected in the way that women need to feel loved. I think by letting them lead the home that is one way to give them that.

The men have the harder role in the end anyway. They have have a lot on their shoulders and wanting to do right by their families.

I'm not saying that it will be easy to submit, but one thing that helps is if we're already submitting to God. Another thing that makes it a little easier is if the man is doing as the verse says and is loving his wife like Christ loves the church. If he's protecting, caring and respectful of her than it isn't hard to submit to a man who's like that.

I get so sick of feminist liberals saying or putting words in our mouths on what submission is. It isn't where the man sits on his behind and barks orders. They don't walk all over their wives. Godly men aren't screaming and yelling to be heard. They don't come in with an iron fist and say this is how it will be and deal with it. It is totally nothing like that at all.

I say way to go, Candace Cameron Bure for bringing light to biblical submission! We need more Godly women bringing this to the frontlines.

What are your opinions on submission?

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