What is the best gift for a guy? I don't think I even know anymore. You see, I haven't bought gifts for a guy in a long time. I haven't seriously dated someone during the holidays in years. My siblings and I stopped buying gifts for each other eons ago when there got to be too many spouses and children (big families - it gets expensive fast). Among my friends and I, including my male friends, our currency is food not gifts. While I'm sure that my boyfriend would be thrilled to find brownies under the tree that's not really what I had in mind for Christmas. So what the heck is the best is the best gift for a guy?
I used to do ok with the gift giving thing but unfortunately I didn't rock the relationship thing. Let's review, it'll be fun! My high school/first semester of university boyfriend was kind of the artsy type (or at least so he liked to think) and I bought him some cool street art and got it framed. He dumped me the day after I got home for Christmas break so needless to say he did not get that gift. The next guy I dated got rather boring but nice gifts as I was rather trigger shy. He was on the receiving end of CDs, movies, shirts - nothing that you wouldn't buy your brother. I felt a little more confident about Drummerboy (or at least pretended to) and got back on the cool gift giving wagon with a limited edition Black Sabbath LP, a Black Sabbath CD signed by all the original members and then as a joint gift from his sister and I, a big white Yamaha drum set. My confidence was totally misplaced when we broke up a few months later - a week before my twenty-fifth birthday. The next time I was seeing someone during the holidays it wasn't serious and we knew it wasn't going to last so I happily gifted him a copy of Natalie D'Arbeloff's The Joy of Letting Women Down. (I know what you are thinking but he loved it and we didn't stop seeing each other for another month.)
Now I find myself in a totally different situation. I'm living with a guy and we've totally renovated our lives for each other. I've relocated to a new city, he's moved back into the city after living in the suburbs and is enjoying his first stint as a pet owner (my cat even likes him which nothing short of a miracle). He's someone that does not receive gifts well. He prefers giving them to getting them. Since this is our first Christmas and we're having to buy everything from the stockings to go on the mantle, to the tree stand, to the angel that will sit on top, we've set a $100 limit for our gifts to each other (not including stocking stuffers).
He's already giving me a wonderful gift. You see, I haven't really celebrated Christmas since 2000. That was the last year I travelled home to have Christmas with my family. In the years since then I've largely "faked the joy" as a friend of mine is fond of saying. I sent out Christmas cards. I've spent Christmas with friends, I've spent it with Drummerboy's family (lovely family, however not mine), and I've spent the last several alone. I haven't had a tree aside from my version of a Charlie Brown Christmas tree, which I couldn't even be bothered to set up last year.
This year will be different. We're going to see a performance of The Nutcracker. There will stockings hung by our electric fireplace with care, filled up slowly and stealthily during the days prior to Christmas. There will be a tree standing in front of the window smelling all tree-like (hopefully standing anyway, the cat has never seen one before). There will be carefully selected Christmas carols playing, which means that as Jewel's Christmas album has been banned on the grounds of being too depressing and Randy Travis's are still under negotiation. There will be a Christmas turkey with all the trimmings. I'll be baking up a storm much to everyone's satisfaction. Christmas day will be spent lounging around in our jammies watching movies, eating far too much than is good for us and if we're really feeling energetic some Wii bowling. No doing things on other people's schedules, no leaving the house, no of anything that we don't feel like doing.
He is giving me something that can't be wrapped and that doesn't come in a box. He's giving me the gift of Christmas itself.
I would really like to get him something that means even a quarter as much in return so yeah, I'm basically screwed. I'll settle for getting him something that he likes, and hopefully something that will surprise him. Of course, I have no clue what that is yet but I still have time, right? Right????
I'm not the only one wavering on the "what to buy" fence. I'm in good company with these bloggers.
Mrs Micah ponders what to get her husband for Christmas.
K.C. is looking for some boyfriend gift giving advice.
Confession Mama is stressed about what to get her husband for Christmas.
Cup of Joe hasn't posted her gift guides for 2008 but check out her 2007 Boyfriend Gift Guide.
Maybe I'll find some ideas on the Boyfriend Gift Guide Blog?
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