Wouldn’t it be nice if the man of our dreams just stumbled into our lives, swept us off our feet and brought nothing but happiness and joy into our lives as we sail into the sunset?
It sure would be…. But life isn’t a romance novel. Life is messy….
Your crush doesn’t know you are alive…
The great guy you just started hanging out with is still talking with his ex….
You found out your boyfriend is cheating on you…
You love him but everyone says he is wrong for you…
You had the best / worst first date ever…
He is commitment phobic!
I can go on and on….
Let’s face it. We all have a story, we have all been there. Some of us are there right now…
When I was twenty-seven years old, I met the man of my dreams. He was smart, funny, successful, an amazing cook, and he lived in a beautiful home on the beach! I was so happy, initially. But soon I learned there was a problem. A big problem.
He was beyond commitment-phobic. Forget about not wanting to get married, he barely wanted to have a relationship….
Call me naive or call me stupid, I didn’t let this bother me. It may have something to do with the fact that I was extremely familiar with commitment-phobic men. You see, my dad was one too! Not only did he live next-door to my mother, he dated my mom for close to seven years before he came to his senses and realized he couldn’t live with out her…. Her breaking up with him may or may not have had something to do with that decision but I digress….
Back to my relationship….
Weeks became months and months became years. I continued to date Mr. Commitment -Phobic. I was content to let nature take it’s course. I didn’t pester him about taking our relationship to the next level. But then again, I didn’t have to. His friends and family were taking care of the dirty work for me. And some of the stunts they pulled were doozies – including throwing an impromptu faux engagement party!
There was so much drama, I was able to write a book about my attempt to convert this commitment phobic man into a husband. To tie into this book, I created a new blog site Dangled Carat (http://www.dangledcarat.com) as a place to share stories - after all, love, Dating, Relationships, Commitment-phobia, Engagements, Weddings and Marriages – it is not easy. But our experiences can help not only ourselves but others.
Let’s share our stories…. To guest post, please email me at hilary(at)dangledcarat(dot)com