Shopping For a Wedding Dress? Don't Make These Mistakes

2 years ago

One of the most important decisions a bride makes before she walks down the aisle is about her wedding gown. On this, one of the most special occasions of her life, a bride wants to look and feel like the most beautiful woman in the world. She will call upon friends and family members for opinions and help with finding the perfect dress, and she should not settle until she has that “this is the one!” a-ha moment.

It is generally recommended that you begin looking for your dress at least 9-12 months prior to your wedding date. Shopping and fittings should begin about 6-9 months prior to the date. Before you step one foot into any bridal boutique, however, you should check out this article and make sure you avoid these common mistakes which include wearing the wrong bra, bringing the wrong people (and their opinions), and trying your dress on without the proper shoes.


Image: Darlington Shopping Council via Flickr

I remember the day I got married like it was yesterday. I was a swollen 8 months pregnant and my dress fit terribly because the women at the bridal shop thought they knew me better than I knew myself. When I went for my first fitting and made it known that I was expecting, the bridal consultant told me that my breasts would grow much larger, engorged with breast milk, and that I should buy the dress I wanted two sizes larger than I was at the time. I told her that I didn’t think I would need a dress that much bigger, especially because of the way that the dress was designed; it was A-line, high-waisted, and very forgiving in the bodice. She convinced me she knew what was best, having over 20 years of experience in “the business”.

She was wrong. Horribly wrong.

My dress was entirely too big and because the store didn’t let me try on the dress for a final until two weeks before the wedding date, there was little to do. My breasts didn't get much bigger and I didn't "show" as much as most women do; I was already plus-size and "hid" my baby bump well. After spending hundreds of dollars on that dress and struggling through my third trimester in the hot summer—I was miserable! I did what I could, but I remember feeling disappointed and extremely sad. My ill-fitting dress made me self-conscious throughout the whole wedding and ceremony, despite the compliments I received.

This is your day so make sure that when you slide into your gown you are 100% satisfied with your reflection in the mirror. You’ll remember this day for the rest of your life and, well, there will be tons of pictures to remind you of what you may try to forget.

I’m divorced. *looks away*

 Feminista Jones is the Love & Sex section editor at BlogHer. She blogs at

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